Do Women Need Pampering All Their Life

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Re: Do Women Need Pampering All Their Life

@CM

While I do not discount anything you have stated. I fail to see the correlation between self-worth and constraints provided by society. Confident women are confident regardless of societal constraints placed on them. The need for self-validation is by no means a symptom of society placing constraints on women. Case in point. All women say they deserve to be pampered. But all these women come various social strata in various different cultures and environs. Blaming society in this case is a crutch. Nothing more.

You are right. Blaming the society would be a crutch, but an explanation is just that; an explanation.

Think about imposing strict rules on a person, with strict criticism if one fails to follow the rules. And now think about what would happen if the do make any mistakes or deviate from the rules. Think about that person’s experience of harsh criticism, and their sense of self. A kid with continuous harsh criticism would have difficulty developing a healthy sense of self.

Check out the “Opinionated Wives” thread, or any Life1 threads where one party feels that they have to live by someone else’s rules.

Now men have to follow those rules too. But the society gives them a bit more leeway.

Even confident people feel anxious and threatened.

This, by no means, means that women have no self-worth etc. It only explains the slight difference between men and women on neuroticism scale. In the end, every single person needs validation to be psychologically healthy.