so who should we blame here ???MIL or DIL 
The price of adopting a son
Tuesday, July 29, 2008
By Mansoor Ahmad
LAHORE
Residents of a Johar Town street are still waiting for Mrs Manzoor, an over 70 years old woman who silently slipped out of her house one day, leaving no trace behind to find her.
She lived with her adopted son, daughter-in-law and grandchildren. Her husband had died a few months back. He had asked her on his death-bed not to transfer her house to the son, warning she would be thrown out of her if she did that.
After the death of her husband, her neighbours persuaded her to transfer the house to the son. She gave in to their persistence. But, soon after the property was transfer to him, her son along with her wife tortured her, forcing her leave the house silently. The neighbours are worried as it were they who had asked her to transfer the house to the son.
The Johar Town street is a closely-knit community comprising 40 ten-marla houses where middle class families live. They share their joys and sorrows with one an other. Mr and Mrs Manzoor joined the community about twelve years back along with their son and daughter-in-law. Soon, they became darlings of the neighbourhood. Manzoor had been in an air line in Oman for a long time before he settled down in the Town street.
Manzoors were issueless. They reported adopted a boy from their own family and took him to Oman. Both adored the son. The story goes that the relationship between the son and the parents turned sour when he married a neighbourís girl in Oman at a tender age. However, their love for the adopted child was so intense that they reconciled with the marriage and permitted him to live with them along with his wife.
The neighbours had some sympathy for the adopted son because they thought he faced the anger of Manzoor after the marriage against his will. The son and his wife were courteous with the neighbours and seemed to respect the adopted parents. They neighbours thought if the adopted son was not given any property or wealth of Manzoor during his life, it would all go to his legal heirs.
The neighbours felt strange when they requested Manzoor, who was in his late seventies and had good relations in the locality, to transfer his property to the son. But, he always refused to do so.
Six and half years back, Manzoor died after long illness. He transferred his farm land to his brother in Shiekhupura and cash was transferred to his brother who lived in Karachi. The house belonged to Mrs Manzoor who had some other property as well.
After the death of Manzoor, the son was obedient and courteous to the widow. He also managed to gain the sympathies of his neighbours who requested the old lady to transfer the house to him. The lady, who was always willing to do so even during the life of her husband, transferred the property.
A few days later, Mrs Manzoor told the neighbours that her adopted son wanted her to sign the documents of the two plots, the only property left with her. She did not know whether the plots were sold or transferred to him.
After that, the ordeal of Mrs Manzoor began. She was asked by the son not to visit the neighbours as she was in iddat. The neighbours were discouraged to visit her. They could hear sobs of the old lady. They suspected that she was being tortured.
Then, one night, they heard her loud screams and rushed to the house. While they were asking his son and the wife about the old lady, she slipped silently from the side door and was never heard of again.
Some neighbours did see her catching an auto-rickshaw but she has remained untraceable since then. The people of the locality feel guilty because they persuaded the lady to transfer the property to her adopted son. They have severed all relations with the son and his family who are living a secluded life in the locality.
Some say that they are staying in the locality to see the fate of those who maltreated the mother that raised and loved the adopted son like a real one. Sociologists say that such inhuman behaviour with elders is rarely seen in this part of the world, but such incidents do occur.
A few months back, the electronic media in India exposed a son and his wife who used to lock his mother in a cage. The old woman was released for cleaning the house and washing cloths by the daughter-in-law. She was locked again after she had done chores. She was given leftovers to eat. The Indian police arrested the couple for caging a human being.
…shocking n very sad.