do u believe in this statement..

Lifestyle Relationships
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from what im reading and hearing everywhere i gather:

**shaadi karo tho museebat aur na karo tho museebat..

**how true is this statment in your opinion?..

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translation buddy.

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translation:..its trouble if u do marry and its trouble if u dont marry also..

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I can verify that part for you , Not being married is a museebat , And I do want to get married.

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i bet ull say the same thing once u r married..hehe

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Bet karne se pehli hi lost hogi hai Bet :smiley:

I find it troublesome if you aren’t married, I’m married and really really happy. No museebat, only love…hmmm :wub:

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agar itne hi happy hain sab to plz aise log aise threads me na aya karen..thanx

soni i agree with u...whn ur single u dream abt gttng married
but once ur married..oh holly s*** its a nightmare

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All that means is that life is a struggle. That's no big surprise.

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why? aren't you happy with your married life?

We will come and come again to tell what a BLESSING MARRIED LIFE IS.

Citrine, this statement is not true, we humans have made it become true by speaking these statements from our cursed tongue. Don't blame it on marriage, blame it on yourself.

You know why people make these statements?

they have expectations:

I list them for both:

**Women:

caring, always listening, he will always take my side even if I'm wrong, loving me 24/7
buying every second day gifts, when you don't talk one day to me I think you don't love me anymore...If you don't have time to listen to my problems I think you don't care, MIL will receive me with open arms, meri shaadi doom damake ke saath hoi gi, big house hoi ga, lotta money, lotta ca$h

Men:

obey whatever I say, when I come home from work the meal needs to be ready and done, give education to our kids, I'm out anyway...Pehle Hotel Wife banno, then Hotel Mama...

**The points I listed are the common ones...There are more but leave it to these here for now...

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Of course, I am very happy. But my point was that the museebat has nothing to do with marriage. If you're experiencing struggle before and after marriage, that's just life.

Time Pass - March 2012
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oh man this Citrine girl really seems Sick of Life and her marriage.

And I know she's gonna come after me to bash me after reading this :Das she's been going after other with a danda :p

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not really. these kinds of statments are opinions of someone, who said something in the heat of the moment, and did not realize the general ineffectiveness of the words it contained and in turn the weakness of their meaning. everyone responsible knows, that marriage is the most sanctified bond that a person creates on this earth on her / his own. so, why call it a pain? it could be a pain, when one or both sides are in pain or delibrately ignorant.
but otherwise, calling it a pain, is immature.

Time Pass - March 2012
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Well if u look at it like this "a person can have his/her ups and downs while they're not married, and they can also have ups and downs if they are married. So we just start assuming dat if even 1 thing goes wrong between a husband & wife their marriage becomes a disaster. We always should look at the positive sides of everything, and SHOULD NOT blame our marriage.

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:)........Translated into Urdu:

Shaadi ka Laddoo aysa

Jo Khai woh pachtai

Jo Na Khai

woh lalchai........:biggthumb

get it.........:)

but all kiding aside.....Marraige has far more benefits.......the creation of a new Family Unit....when children come along.....etcetra, etcetra......

Than staying single........alone.......not all of us are cut out to stay single!

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Before I got married,.. I said yeh shaadi vadi is like barbadi haha,..
but after married,.. shaadi vadi is must to make it successfull keep the trust.

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To have a happy existence...a person should get married IMO...that's how Allah mian has planned life for human beings...one phase after another...

If you decide not to get married esp in Pakistan...it's not a pretty picture...most importantly for girls...

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museebat or non museebat ..karni to parhai gey na:LB:

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Most of the marriages in my family have been pretty successful with a very small proportion that could relate to the first half of the statement.

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Agar shadi say pehlay takleefain utha rahay hon to shadi na karo to musibat lugta hai.

Agar shadi kay baad spouse achcha/achchi na milay to to shadi kar kay bhi museebat lugti hai.

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its only a museebat if you get married to the wrong man...