For those of you who had struggles to conceive…and then were blessed with children…did you ever feel like you “Forgot” what it felt like to struggle with having a baby?
I know most of the people here on GS who were TTC and had kids, are still pretty understanding towards those who are still TTC..unfortunately…in my experience, I feel like that’s lacking in real life…I know several who did have struggles to get pregnant..and once they had their kids, it seems like they forgot all about the pain of trying and miscarrying.
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I remember the sheer desperation and month after month of disappointment but I have forgotten all the doc appointments, prodding, medicines.
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I remember the months and months of doctor visits and drugs and injections and then disappointments that happened at the end of every cycle.Every month/cycle it was like we were exhausting another option and getting closer to the fact that we wont have a lot of options available.It was nothing less than an emotional roller coaster.And the hormones you are taking mess with your moods and thoughts as well...IMO it is not easy for everyone to understand especially those who by the grace of God had no troubles while ttc...(no offense intended).Fertility treatments are not easy.
It does seem distant past now.Although it was only 2008-2009 when we were undergoing treatments.I think I can very well relate to what others are going through while TTC undergoing months of fertility treatments and what goes on in their minds.I kind of feel scared of the thought of going through it all again if I have to.
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would you ladies do it again?
or are u satisfied with the one child?
(this maybe a separate thread...)
i know of a woman who has one child concieved without any issues, but now she has issues with conceiving and is desprately wanting another child. she gets sad, mad, etc etc because she is not able to conceive. Sometimes I think that she is lucky/blessed that she is alreayd has one.
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I have a miracle baby and I can never thank Allah enough for that.
If I have to go through the same stuff again,yes I will do it again.I would love to have one more one day,Inshallah.
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would you ladies do it again?
or are u satisfied with the one child?
(this maybe a separate thread...)
i know of a woman who has one child concieved without any issues, but now she has issues with conceiving and is desprately wanting another child. she gets sad, mad, etc etc because she is not able to conceive. Sometimes I think that she is lucky/blessed that she is alreayd has one.
For some reason, and maybe this is a common misconception, I wouldn't think having a second child would be difficult...I remember someone saying that the best cure for infertility is to have a baby...lol...and I've seen several real life examples where the mother was getting treatment for the first and no treatments were necessary for subsequent children....
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I dont think they forget but the pregnancy brain/mommy brain takes over and things change! the struggles change too :-)
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^ that is what I wanted to say.
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I remember the feeling of not being able to concieve. I think I'll always remember the emotions involved, I did however forget phyisical stuggles..... the pain of giving myself injections, or the multiple doctors appointments, ultrsounds, and side effects of the meds.
As for a second child...we feel so blessed for having our son but we do want more children and if getting pregnant again involves the same struggles I'd do it again in a heart beat.
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I don't think you really forget. we tried for a year before i got pregnant...and it was so frustrating, definitely remember that. I think once you do get pregnant, your mind shifts and you have something completely different to concentrate on. one thing i will say is that once you have been at the ttc stage for so many months...the pregnancy definitely seems like a blessing. before we ttc i used to think, oh a baby it will happen as soon as we try..nope,not at all. and it sure does make me appreciate it a lot more.
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I don't think you should actually 'forget'. Instead thank Allah every day that you've been blessed with a baby after so much paitence & struggle.
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I think no body can 4 get that each time I look at my baby I just thank Allah 4 blessing me such a beautiful gift n whn me n huby r playing with her v just remember those days every month waiting 4 good news n doctor appointments painful tests medicines injections n of course ppl around u I still remember when I got spotting of implantation I cried a lot I thought periods r coming :( n I asked my huby get ready 4 next appointment :( if I have 2 go through the same cycle all over again I m ready because I just love the end result of this cycle :) may Allah bless every1 with a healthy baby :)