Re: Do ppl really have to marry the person
Zobs, think for a minute that you are married to someone. But you love some qualities of other men. How would that be especially when you tell your husband “jaanu, I love the way Munawar walks or honey, I am totally crazy about the way Mehboob talks.”
When you love someone, you erase what you don’t like about them. And think about it, it’s better to marry someone who’s qualities you love. You can never really know everything about anyone unless you start living with them as their spouse.
Now regarding divorces, you’ll be surprised how many divorces and extra marital affairs we are having in our muslim community these days, most of which were “arranged” marriages. Sometimes I think that people who have “love” marriages actually work harder at their marriages because they go through tough times initially and are judged harder.
But again, I don’t want to generalize here.