Do men (especially) really change after marriage, does their love decrease once the couple has children ? Whom does the husband like more kids or spouse?
No goin into marriage thinkin i can change this person is wrong.. a person annot be changes.. u can elarn to love with it.. but u cant realy change it..
The qualities n flaws that they have before shaadi will exist after shaadi...
there might be change in the frequency of habits but they will still be there..
Yes they change.
The sense of responsibility.
I lil example could be, a friend of mine used to drive very rough, but after he got married within few months he changed & now he is the one always asking about seat belts & drive slow. Bcos when he is driving with his wife, the obvious feling of any mistake can not only hurt me, but my wife.
& the process of having a kid itself changes the relationship totally. those 9 months, knowing this lady is preg with ur kid, the pain she face, & after the kid when both of u take care of the kid in day or night this creates a diffrent bond between the two, a diffrent & more strong relation, respect & love.
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you are rite JB, everybody changes due to as the responsibilties grows. You also change because you grow older and things are diffrent and you have new roles.
In a marriage, both will change , but I think a lot of people dont relize that they arent the same person as before, they can only see the changes in theire partners.
about loving who more, i dont know?
my colleagues friend had a very serious car accident, the whole familily , the friend whole family was injured., wife, him self and thiere 3 children. and the friend tild my colleague that when he relized what had happend, after he was trown out of the car, he first thought of his children. But that was a diffrent situation.
Its a case of changing and maturing togeather
ofcourse they do , life style changes, responsibilites and priorities change. hence, ppl change as well :-)
why do i get the feeling that he/she was trying to ask a completely different question and it was taken as something else !! to put it out in the open i think what 'blushing_vision' meant to ask was that do ppl when they get married treat each other as 'ghar ki murghi daal barabar' ?? :) but then i have been wrong b4.. who knows !!!
Indeed..couldn’t have said it better :k:
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why do i get the feeling that he/she was trying to ask a completely different question and it was taken as something else !! to put it out in the open i think what 'blushing_vision' meant to ask was that do ppl when they get married treat each other as 'ghar ki murghi daal barabar' ?? :) but then i have been wrong b4.. who knows !!!
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ditto...
yea it happens but it should not ... this love b/w both husband and wife should increase with the passage of time even if they have the responsibilities of their kids... but mostly I have seen that they start taking each other for granted...
Of course love can and should grow with time. A couple needs to mature and learn together through shared experiences. I'm a firm believer in that.
yaar, let me share this poem with u b_v :D
u know how shahjahan got taj mahal made for his wife mumtaz whom he loved a lot...
so here's what a guy has got to say:
shadi se pehle
tajmahal banana chahta hoon mumtaz nai milti
in courtship phase:
tajmahal banana chahta hoon mumtaz mil gai haan nai karti
shadi k baad:
tajmahal banana chahta hoon mumtaz naheen marti
:D
It all depends. Not everyone is the same. Some change, some don't. Some change drastically, some don't. Apni apni baat karo and stop worrying about broad-brush generalizations. Koi faida nahi. :)
LOL irem! 
Mumtaz ki wajah sey yah sab kuch ho raha hai 
WOMEN AT FAULT 
Biwi 
] Yes men change after the wedding and I didn’t read everyon’e reply but I don’t think anybody said what I am going to say:
ONE OF THE problems that men face after they get married is that the wife keeps herself TOO BUSY in the housework. Kiss karney lago, “mujhe munney ko doodh pilaana hai”, “ammi jee ghar par hain”, “abhi bartan dhoney hain”, and bla bla bla. All men want is a few minutes where they can sit with their wife and have some good time. They come home after a long day HOPING that their wife would be free and they can share their day with her, but no, wife ka hulya dekhney wala hota hai, you can barely tell the difference between the maid and the wife. I am not saying she shouldn’t do house chores and all that, but come on, there’s A LOT OF time for that. That will be done too, let’s just not worry about that right now?
Yeah there are exceptions 
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ONE OF THE problems that men face after they get married is that the wife keeps herself TOO BUSY in the housework. Kiss karney lago, "mujhe munney ko doodh pilaana hai", "ammi jee ghar par hain", "abhi bartan dhoney hain", and bla bla bla. All men want is a few minutes where they can sit with their wife and have some good time. They come home after a long day HOPING that their wife would be free and they can share their day with her, but no, wife ka hulya dekhney wala hota hai, you can barely tell the difference between the maid and the wife. I am not saying she shouldn't do house chores and all that, but come on, there's A LOT OF time for that. That will be done too, let's just not worry about that right now?
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Bhai jaan.. thats just the first year or two after marriage. After that, some actually start hoping that their wife keeps busy so they can watch their favorite sports shows et al in peace. Ofcourse thats only possible if kids are growing up in Auto-Mode (as far as abba ji is concerned).
ps. I am just being facitious... but then again Shikra bhai jaan is so romantic. Allah Allah.
yaar Faisal bhai mein apni baat kar raha tha Inshallah I’ll be romantic til I reach the age of 40 (I’ll try my best to reach 45).
p.s. Yeah you are right about the games too but I just wanted to blame everything on women and bash them :bash:
Men are very simple. All we need from you women is food, time-out for sports and some form of intimacy every night. If you can follow these three golden principles of happy marriage, there won't be any single men or women.
What about your serious issues FG?
Those will go away with time, love and affection.