Re: Do parents teach selfishness ?
good parenting is a prerequisite for a physically, cognitively, intellectually, psychologically, morally, emotionally and spiritually well developed child. every child has essential learning that comes from the quality of the parenting they receive. many personality disturbances, and affective or mood disorders such as panic, frustration, behavioral over reactivity or muted emotionality complex conditions or spectrums as they are called in psychological practice, emerge, which may have originated during early child-hood, as a result of parental neglect and over time that neglect expresses itself in the personal behaviors of a growing individual adolescent age and early adulthood. the negative impact of bad parenting, will result in bad behaviors of the child as a grown up man or woman.
everything that is a family tradition, the socio economic status, a sense of low self esteem or presence of arrogance, being dishonest, hurting others, tricking other, want of sympathy without deserving it or being really in need of it and then being uncaring of others, want of negative attention from others, laziness, making excuses, not communicating truthfully and directly, being irresponsible with others' feelings, being unable to determine oneself as an individual and make personal decisions for oneself, and being selfish
all of it can be an outcome of how worse off parents' parenting has been.
once it becomes a habit, then the individual is not even capable of feeling any shame and guilt for being selfish. because that is the only kind of brought up and interaction he/she to be real and especially so, because it is working for him/her at the time.
knowing about proper discipline and values that can teach the child to remember that Allah swt is watching over all of ours actions, is what is missed by many parents no matter what their age.
keeping in mind the difference between right and wrong, good and bad - accepting one's own mistakes, being self accountable and conscious of one's conscience are habits that are not taught by some parents and that is why, in one this respect, people grow up to be selfish to the point of being cruel and brutal. but, it is only time that will correct them. it would be great if parents did the preventive work, but unfortunately parents of some children/people themselves encourage their grown up children to be selfish because parents are selfish. it is a sad circle of misery of all people involved - old or young. the only thing which can correct this huge flaw in a given selfish child or a grow up is the realization that he/she is selfish and in order for him/her to feel peaceful and improve the relations with other people, and build their personal trustworthiness in people they deal with in a selfish manner and never be selfish to other people in life again.