I am only 18 right now and I want to at least get a bachelors degree before I get married, which will take 4 years and then I need 1 year to learn how to do all the desi cooking.
And the only reason I have a baat pakki so early is because before this I had another really good rishta. So of course, my dad got opinions from his family back home and everyone was okay with it except my phuppi. She wanted me to get married to her son. He is even better than the previous guy if I must say myself :) Anyways, my parents said they agree to the rishta but they have to hold it off until I finish school and get a stable career, as that was the plan even with the other rishta. I don't know why the guys family don't wait till the girl finishes school but my parents didn't say no because you know how hard it is to find good rishtas. In our family, the girls family never ever asks the boys fam for rishta so my parents agreed as some of my cousins are 28 and still not married.
When I was 18 it was more lust than love :/ But then again as a guy can't speak for women. 18 is too young for anything anyway.
Aww.this is so cute ;) i know your feelings.I m 18 too.At this everythings seems to be nice but sometimes all we have to do is wait :) May Allah bless you with happiness but don't expect from him.
I am "engaged" (no formal engagement, just a baat pakki) with a very attractive and nice guy, Mashallah. Anyways, ever since his family sent a rishta I have been obsessed with him. I check his Facebook every single day to see if he updates anything (no we're not friends on FB), listen to love songs and think about him, and even make collages of our pictures. Every single day I wake up thinking about him and go to sleep dreaming about him. He is literally consuming my life! I cannot wait to get married to him, but it won't happen for at least 5 years :( Anyways, I was wondering if other girls to this or no haha? And if girls do this, do you think guys do this? Like stalk their future wife on social media?
I am "engaged" (no formal engagement, just a baat pakki) with a very attractive and nice guy, Mashallah. Anyways,** ever since his family sent a rishta I have been obsessed with him. I check his Facebook every single day to see if he updates anything (no we're not friends on FB),** listen to love songs and think about him, and even make collages of our pictures. Every single day I wake up thinking about him and go to sleep dreaming about him. He is literally consuming my life! I cannot wait to get married to him, but it won't happen for at least 5 years :( Anyways, I was wondering if other girls to this or no haha? And if girls do this, do you think guys do this? Like stalk their future wife on social media?
Thank youuuu hehe
Why not just add him? Do you two talk to each other much?
Typical pakistani backward way of engaging..If you are 18 i assume he is 20 or so and must be studying in a uni..That alone changes an individual.ANd then 5 years long wait without any formal contact is a stupid decision..
Pakis these days..Ppl getting engaged at 18.The world is flipping.Men first establish themselves & then think of engagement.
So he is your cousin? Phupis son? So why cant u even talk to him normally. And 1 year to learn cooking? Bless youu.. Lol Your so young! Alot can change in 5 years. Just relax take it easy and stop stalking him. Just add him! Dont get too emotionally attached but five years is a long time and the bubble could burst so just take it easy
Seems like you have a big crush on him. It is natural. And I guess it is normal to check his profile out often too. That is what happens when you have a crush.
:P
On a side note, 5 yrs is a really long time. You may like someone else along the way. Especially if you meet other guys in uni. However, I think guys tend to change preferences more often than girls. I hope he knows that his baat is kind of pakki with you. You dont want him telling his mom that he likes someone else 5 yrs down the road.
You can either get married early and get to know him in the meantime OR not to get to know him and wait.
Either way, you’re not really engaged yet are you?
And you don’t need a year to learn desi cooking
Listen to your mother on this…really. She is right when she says you need to stay out of each other’s hair right now because in 5 years time - you will not be the same people at all. A degree, career, friendships, etc make a HUGE difference in people. Some people evolve faster and some slower. At times, one person changes in a relationship while the other doesn’t. You think you know each other and then you don’t all of a sudden. Mistrust, lack of communication at the right times, phone arguments are THE worst ever, etc.
I am not trying to scare you…but you are really too young right now. Focus on your studies, hobbies, career planning, friends, etc.
Typical pakistani backward way of engaging..If you are 18 i assume he is 20 or so and must be studying in a uni..That alone changes an individual.ANd then 5 years long wait without any formal contact is a stupid decision..
Pakis these days..Ppl getting engaged at 18.The world is flipping.Men first establish themselves & then think of engagement.
He's 25 and goes to one of the top uni's for his field in the country so I'm sure he'll establish himself quick.
Getting married early isn’t really an option and we are engaged but only my family and his family know about it. They plan on telling everyone else when the time for marriage actually comes.
I know you don’t need a year to learn desi cooking, but everything else too like bathroom cleaning, sewing, etc
I know my mom is right, but I’m not wrong either. Even when focusing on school, hobbies, etc there are still times of the day when I make time to only think about marriage and him
Seems like you have a big crush on him. It is natural. And I guess it is normal to check his profile out often too. That is what happens when you have a crush.
:P
On a side note, 5 yrs is a really long time. You may like someone else along the way. Especially if you meet other guys in uni. However, I think guys tend to change preferences more often than girls. I hope he knows that his baat is kind of pakki with you. You dont want him telling his mom that he likes someone else 5 yrs down the road.
I'm 99% sure he knows we're baat pakki'd but I don't really know if he even knows what I look like? He probably only agreed to this rishta cause his mom is obsessed with me and he probably agreed to please her.
I'm 99% sure he knows we're baat pakki'd but I don't really know if he even knows what I look like? He probably only agreed to this rishta cause his mom is obsessed with me and he probably agreed to please her.
sounds dangerous. most, if not all guys will not marry someone who they have not seen before!!! even us girls wont marry someone we have never seen!!!!!!
