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true yes …never thought abt the flaw before…
All I did was just read the quotation and gave an answer 
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False
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but how to find a person who loves u :O
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thats stupid
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That quote comes from someone who watched too many Bollywood movies 
especially the ones with Waheeda Rehman and Guru Dutt, jet black and pearl white films.
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I agree that you shouldn't go after someone you're madly in love with, but who treats you like crap. But interestingly though.....according to THIS quotation...........should the person who is treating you like crap also be advised that "Look....you treat her/him like crap.......but since they love you sooooo much....you should marry them." That's another flaw in the quotation. I've heard it before many times.....but I've never been crazy about it.
So, I agree that you shouldn't marry someone who doesn't care about you......but at the same time......I don't think that it's so "simple" as to say that you "should" marry the person who loves you.....if given the choice. You don't just marry someone on that basis alone........the difficult decision of marriage involves the consideration of many factors.
The quotation is flawed.
Agree.
Its nice to have someone thats crazy about you but unless you're crazy about them too...you dont really feel the love. You just feel like "he got my flowers...big whoopin deal". If you loved him, those flowers would mean much more to you.
In a way, you cheat yourself out of experiencing the true meaning of love when you do that.
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You will always see though that aunties will advise you to marry a guy who is fida over you...because that way "vo qabu mein rahega"
Is this true?
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wah rey kaisa tujarbah hai kka ko
waisy aap kitni bar mamaoon bany:hmmm:
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It’s a very selfish notion.
Also, I’ve noticed that some people who are the object of another’s affection, tend to lose their respect for the person crushing on them. It’s an odd thing, if we don’t return the feeling then the more the person tries, the less attractive they become. That doesn’t sound like the ideal condition for marriage.
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So Reha Baji, I have a question.
Male is deeply in love with Female and would like to marry her (sorry, but I had to use something to clarify the situation), but the female has a bit of feeling.
Kia wo female will fall in love with him or not in future after their marriage?
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Not watching sports is clearly having an effect on you :no:
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Thank goodness men can have multiple wives
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^ Not really, to have multiple wives men would have satisfy the conditions (unless someone here comes up with proof otherwise):
- They can take care of their wives and give them the same respect and love needed
- Care for them equally
Those conditions cannot be satisfied by normal human beings unless they're extraordinary. Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) was that extraordinary human.
The reason men have four wives today isn't because they're dying to give all four respect, its because of sex. Hence that selfish motivation in itself would render the marriages useless and gunnah.
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Ok I said I will satisfy the conditions.... so DONE! :D
Btw, if Islam prescribes marriage to prevent sins like premarital sex, then why can't it be he can't marry again for the same reason? Even going back to the prophet, his first wife was old but hazrat aisha was pretty young and I think the most beautiful of all or at least a favorite, so you can't say that men can't marry again for sex.
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Ok I said I will satisfy the conditions.... so DONE! :D
Looks like you completely missed what I said in my post.
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You basically said that polygamy basically ended with the Prophet himself since no one can be like him after him. I did reply to your other point that men can't get married for sex again if they have a wife already.
I think the problem is that you are looking at things from a woman's perspective, and women generally don't care for sex or there would be a whole smut industry dedicated for them. There are studies out there that women mostly marry for security and men usually are more romantic and care about sex etc than the other gender. I can see how it can apply to our desi society as well.
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You edited your post I see.
So in your view telling your first wife that you (not you just generally) want to marry the second time just because of sex is okay? Do you think that level of disrespect would be fine to the wife? That telling her that she’s not adequate is fine?
Seriously?
I am not looking at this from a woman’s view, I am looking at this from a normal person’s view. I’d think any man who goes to his wife to tell her that he’s marrying the second and the third and the fourth time because she doesn’t and isn’t enough for his sexual appetite is pathetic.
Again, like really? 
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Of course it might ruffle feathers or might not if the second wife is impotent and can’t do for the husband what she could do previously in her marriage. Who are you to say that men can’t desire a younger beautiful wife when it is allowed in islam? :halo:
Of course, I can see the whole jealousy issue as it was even present among the prophet’s wives. There is even one instance where he left them because they were upset that he was preferring one wife over the others. But it must be possible that Islam allowed multiple marriages at one time but also built in safeguards in the system. You seem to be pooh poohing polygamy because it is considered bad and is illegal in the western society.
Looking back at the post, I sure do look like a sexist but oh well, lets be one for the sake of the argument.. 
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Of course it might ruffle feathers or might not if the second wife is impotent and can't do for the husband what she could do previously in her marriage.
Bold bit- Since you mention Islam, Islam also teaches respect. That thinking is not disrespectful?
As for rest 2 lines there are other ways around that.
You seem to be pooh poohing polygamy because it is considered bad and is illegal in the western society.
Really? Where?
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Shaks, then why does islam allow polygamy (not polyandry) if it goes against respect?
And the reason I said something about western influence in your thinking is that you are expressing western thought process in your thinking since you said that you have to be Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) to be able to practice polygamy. There is nothing wrong with what you believe but I am just pointing it out.