Re: Do most ABCDs go ‘back home’ for marriage?
this is probably really stereotypical but do you think that there is a north south divide? as in a England north/south divide. i.e. there are many many more pakistanis in the north esp from kashmir etc and the communities allow language/culture to be present and maintained much more so marrying and living in pak is easier.
In the south I was the only asian girl in my year! and the communities here apart from some districts of london are much more sparse and settling into pak is harder… I should NOT judge on what i see around me but every girl who has married someone from pak is now divorced - none of them lived there at all though - because the 2 did not get along.
The girls who come over from pakistan seem to settle here ok and what you are describing as what girls do crown i have seen that more in men from pak rather than the girls?
every story is different i guess!
Bit in bold I think could be true..
I know what you mean, there was literally only one desi girl in my whole school apart from me.. and only a handful of muslims altogether..
I can’t think of more than a couple of ppl here in London who married from Pakistan but on GS there seem to be loads.. Am thinking they are mostly from the midlands or up north?