yes, we women, in the guise of obedience, and shyness. we somehow make do with total stranger husbands.
how do, though, newly wed, brooms :> , sorry, grooms, feel when they get married to stranger wives. what plans do they hope they will successfully implement, to familiarize them selves with the likes and dislikes of such companions.
best,
DUSH
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Dushwaree app itnay Dushwaar sawal kaisai ker laytee hain : S
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yaar, I think everyone of us should have an adventurous character inside of us :P
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I can't answer that question as I am marrying the person I fell in love with. However, if I were to marry someone via an arranged marriage, I guess I wouldn't be too concerned about it.
Ofcourse girls go through so much when they leave their parents' house and come to their husband's house. They are not only emotionally tired, but physicall tired as well. For the first few days, or may be weeks, I wouldn't want to implement any plans or give her any lectures. I would probably observe her to find out what kind of person she is. If she is able to adjust herself in the family, that's fine. But if I see she's having a hard time, I would probably guide her and tell her how we do things here so she may have an easier time adjusting in. The bottom line is: The only time when I'll try to change her or implement anything in her is when I see there's something wrong or she's having trouble. Other than that, she can live however she feels comfortable.
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A ha!
many women would like to say that they wont leave where they are at. instead of moving 9into the house/ apartment of the guys, they would rather have the guys move in with them, after marriage or move to a new house/ apartment altogether.
at least some women who are financially independent will be able to do so.
will guys on average, have a problem with that demand or expectation of being fair and understanding?
& just for once, be NON conventional against the hot seat they are put in, to maintain wierd traditions?
some women may compromise their relationships, not get married if the guys are uppity about this conflict of who moves where with whom.
any thoughts on this aspect of the matrimonial arrangements?
Ofcourse girls go through so much when they leave their parents' house and come to their husband's house. They are not only emotionally tired, but physicall tired as well. For the first few days, or may be weeks, I wouldn't want to implement any plans or give her any lectures. I would probably observe her to find out what kind of person she is. If she is able to adjust herself in the family, that's fine. But if I see she's having a hard time, I would probably guide her and tell her how we do things here so she may have an easier time adjusting in. The bottom line is: The only time when I'll try to change her or implement anything in her is when I see there's something wrong or she's having trouble. Other than that, she can live however she feels comfortable.
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I, the jhaaro (broom :>), go through such pain and hardship to find out everyone else's name but our own Dush's always appear after the first three threads in Life 1. It must be heartbreaking for the thread-creator to experience these periods of emotions as well.
My sympathies are with the bride-to-be (That jhaaro will be so lucky, I tell you :>)
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only if u were not a dhobi...
possibilities could be..
well.
My sympathies are with the bride-to-be (That jhaaro will be so lucky, I tell you :>)
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Nah, I dont worry about a stranger wife if the wedding is arranged. I am of the opinion that getting to know someone before marriage only escalates the level of expectations. And I dont wanna do that personally.
However, there is a chance that If I dont try to get to know her, she might feel that I am dis-interested/unromantic/kharoos etc so I guess I will have to keep a balance there.
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I dont what kind of arranged marriages u people r talking about that u see ur future spouse on the day of the wedding. Arranged is ur parents pick and u have right to refuse or accept after u get to know them for a while.
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LOL men think differently then women . i do not find any connection regarding this question. men have better ways .
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So how are you going to "know" your future wife if you dont meet her in person before you get married?
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Dushwari are you asking me if I were to move in with my wife in her house, how would I feel about that?
If that’s what you are asking, then here’s my answer: I am an independent person. I mind my own business and don’t like unasked advices from my elders. That doesn’t mean I disrespect them. My reason for not moving into her house will be that I can’t live with her mom, brothers, or sisters living in the same house. That does not mean it’s okay for her to move into my house and live with my parents, brothers, and sister. No. I would like to live away from the big family where only her and I can live in our own little world.
So I guess the answer would be: I don’t expect her to live in my house among joint family system nor do I want her to expect the same from me.
If this was not your question, then ask in less complicated words 
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read my post again.
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Dushwari… here you can find the answers to all your questions about us mere mortals. :snooty: