Do men feel threatened if their wives make more?

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Re: Do men feel threatened if their wives make more?

@ShahreyarKhan

as long as the wife doesn’t start feeling like a king it should be OK

Did you really just say tha?

@Jolie

I don’t think even men prefer to go for women who earns more than them (of course men can also be gold diggers), to me the real problem would be what happens if somewhere along the line women starts earning more than her partner? How would that change dynamics of the relationship?

@redvelvet

Ideally it shouldn’t matter. But it can also depend upon the attitude of the wife. Is it getting to her head, is she looking down on him, etc? Apart from the ego issue…it’s also possible that the increased work load that can come with a higher salary leaves little time for a couple to spend with one another, their kids, and for managing household responsibilities, thus putting a strain on the marriage. So, the problem may not be always be as simple as the husband’s bruised ego…it can be be more complex than that and aggravated by other issues.

There are have times in my real estate career where my commissions earned in one month have been half of my husbands yearly salary. But then I won’t have another commission for maybe 3 months. Such is the nature of my business. I only get paid when a client makes it to the closing table. Does it bother him when I have $XX,XXX paycheck from the sale of one home? Umm…no. He is my biggest cheerleader. Does it inflate my ego and make me think I’m better then him? No. Do make decisions on all things financial, regardless who earned the money? Yes.

I think this issue trascends racial/ethnic/cultural boundries. You’ll find insecure husbands and greedy wives in all colors, shapes and forms. At the end of the day, it comes down to the two people who said “I do” to each other and how they choose to relate to one another.

Neither husband, nor wife should ever have to hold themselves back from excelling/progressing in their careers. That is just wrong.