If a man cheats once on his girlfriend, does that mean he can never be faithful?
If you know that a guy cheated on a girl he was dating before, does that mean he’s not capable of being faithful?
Is that saying true…once a cheat, always a cheat?
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I dont' think that's just limited to "men" ..
secondly, I am sure it is different from person to person.
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yes, once a cheater always a cheater, atleast thats what happened to my sister. Her husband could not stay away from other women. My sister was hoping that he will get better. He did not and now they are divorced.
My sister re-married and is living happy life. He has been married for 4 times so far.
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Me personaly!
Would not be able to forgive someone who cheats and will never ever be with them again.
The moment if i ever find out something like that happened. You can bet i will find him whereever he is and beat the crap out of him. Hurt him so good that next time he thinks of going in bed with someone he will think of me hurtiing him really bad. Yes that b
If a guy cheats on a girl or a girl cheats on a guy for once. Its for sure they will do it again its in the nature.Pshychologically they are not being pleased with the spouse they have so they do seek pleasure else where. They are afraid to end the relationship since they do feel they have some sort of feelings with the one they are tied with.
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I think it depends on the guy and how much he feels for you.
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No he doesn't change. It is just positively reinforcing his actions if a girl accepts him back. To cheat is to betray someone's trust. Do you trust someone who has lied to you? Do you trust someone who steals from you? Then why would you trust someone who cheats?
I have 2 friends who have cheated and still do 5 years later.
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It's a big mistake to think a guy will change. What you see is what you get. If he's unfaithful or violent, it will take a major realization and desire on his part to change, and even then you can expect relapses.
As my mom says, once a guy tastes more than one woman, he can never go back to monogamy.
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What qualifies her for that statement? What are her credentials? Did she conduct a survey or is it a typical desi auntie being a typical desi auntie?
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I guess the truths hurts eh Luxury Item? Don't worry, its acceptible to be a man-whore.
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Thank you. I did not know what I was missing.
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Atleast you are honest to admit that it's hurting you. May allah give you patience and have mercy on your soul. Keep living that "man-whore" lifestyle, it'll catch up with you.
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I dont know if people can change or not but I know that I would never be able to forgive someone who has cheated on me. Trust is everything in a relationship. How the hell are you ever gonna trust that person again? I know I wont be able to.
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Depends on the situation and what you define as cheating. Lets be real here; for some desis just talking to another person of the opposite sex is cheating.
So if by cheating you mean something serious, like sexual contact, etc, then yeah, if you've cheated once there is a strong liklihood it will happen again. But like anything else, if you put your mind to be faithful, I am sure you can be faithful. Being faithful is a choice. Its not like your genes determine that you will be cheating with every other person.
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Just for the record, I know cheating isn't limited to just men. Women do it too. But since I'm a female myself, I'm more interested in finding out about men and that's why I asked about men specifically.
As far as the definition of "cheating" goes....I'm not talking about some people's "desi" version. I'm talking about finding out your boyfriend or husband is carrying on some type of sexual relationship with another woman.
Newayz....thanks for all the replies. I could never marry a man who cheated on me either.....but it's soooooo hard to let go of someone even when you know they betrayed your trust. It's still hurts like hell.
Oh well.....guess that's life.
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lost you are right it rips your heart apart but its better to do that instead of years of agony and pain.
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No they don't. Its ur choice wether you ant to put up with it or just let go of the said person.. its better to let go rather then trying again and again and hurting one's self in the process.
P.s Desi men do change after they have crossed 40/50, but then they go and join the tableghi jamaat and regard their past as a waste of time and also disregard the ppl they 've been related to.
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never expect people to change...especially FOR you...
but some people change by themselves...there are turnpoints in life for some people...and assuming people never change would be silly...cause change is part of the learning process...but do remember it comes from within
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i agree with nia. the fact that he might cheat again or not aside, it will just be a mental torture to wake up next to this person knowing he was with someone else. even if you can bring yourself to forgive, can you bring yourself to forget? and then even if he has changed and makes gestures to fix things up how do you know how sincere he is? how do you know he is doing it to let the guilt load off his back or because he loves you?
plus it takes approximately three months these days to get over someone completely....(without any contact during these 3 months)
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plus it takes approximately three months these days to get over someone completely....(without any contact during these 3 months)
are you just talking about AIDS or emotionaly??:D
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If you know that a guy cheated on a girl he was dating before, does that mean he's not capable of being faithful?
Is that saying true....once a cheat, always a cheat?
depends...if she swas just a pass time:D....but you're his life dream woman...then NO...he may really be faithfull to you....
but if you and hispast gf have same status in his mind...aka, just among others...then he will cheat again..