hi everyone
ok lets say i hav this friend who has moved somewhere far from the person he/she loves so do u think their relationship could work out???
It's not that easy to answer this question. . .
You need to specify a whole lot more before anyone can even begin to provide insight.
What are the ages? What stage of life are these folks in. .e.g. studying, working, etc.?
Why have they moved apart?
Who else influences the relationship. .e.g. family?
What stage is the relationship at? Puppy love, Lust, Love?
So much more is needed . . .
they are youngsters and does all that really matter. love is love what does all that hav to do with it.
Ah!! Let me tell my observations. I have seen few of them. In one case it lasted several years after which they divorced. In other two cases they came together after a long gap of staying away as if nothing happened. At least it seems so, for an outside observer. In two cases, they did come together, but the female strayed a bit and had few sexual affairs in the period they were away. Men also might have done the same But I don't know them. Yah.. depends on the people. I guess if they are young and attractive, they might cheat on the partners when away. If they are old, they might think of quitting relationship which is not of any particular use. In case of an in-between age, say you have 10 years of successful marriage behind or like, relationship stands a chance to stand distance and time. That is my observation. given a choice, I'll not recommend.
Dearest tina,
I understand by this passion the union of desire, friendship, and tenderness, which is inflamed by a single female, which prefers her to the rest of her sex, and which seeks her possession as the supreme or the sole happiness of our being.
The answer to your question, in my opinion, should be based more on observation than on reasoning.
Do long term relationships “work” ? the answer depends upon the definition of work! for one definition of this word… they dont.
for another one, they do!
"love is love what does all that hav to do with it. "
this suggests the latter!
“Take me to you, imprison me, for I,
Except you enthrall me, never shall be free,
Nor ever chaste, except you ravish me.”
John Donne (c. 1572-1631), English divine and metaphysical poet. Last lines of Holy Sonnets, no. 14.
… and i’ll wait up in the darl for you to speak to me… and i’ll open up… release me.
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Dear Tina,
How r u... I'm a new user and trying 2 make a friend where do u live...Tell me more
waiting 4 ur reply
Muzaffar
Dearest Tina
Do I belive that long distance relationships work/last?
Nope. I have seen so many of my friends depressed and broken up from being far away from their loved one, that I wouldn't recommend it.
But you know what, if two people love each other so much, then they could probably make it work. But I'm totally against it.
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Hi Tina,
long distance relations can work!!
i think the question to ask is is there complete trust in the relationship. if there is then there is no reason why the relationship will not work. i have seen it being done for over two years!!!
whether they work or not depends upon what you want from them.
a nice partner to share your life and love with, they work!
long term relationship or marriege, they seemingly dont!
i would oppose anyone who is against long distance relationship. my reason is that we do not choose to be in a relationship... we just find ourselves much into it! so we need to take as much out of it as we can.
Nops !!!! long distance relationship can't work ... yeah !!! surely you can start one at a distance then the 2 individuals need to be closer to each other ( i do not mean have sex ) to understand each other .. to feel secure and be confident and i am definite and hope that ya all will agree with me that this cannot happen in long distance relationship ... and let me tell ya ... friendship will work ... but not love for opposite gender.....
*** If you can't understand my silence, You can't understand my words***
hi
welll who loves he raves
so it shoud work
"... and let me tell ya ... friendship will work ... but not love for opposite gender....."
the immediate consequence to this statment is a serious question,
sexual attraction not being inculded in the definition of love, what differnces is there between friendship and love?
none!
hi tina
it depends ....was there a relationship between the two be4 gettin appart???and how deep was it?....however, what i think is that, its difficult to maintain long distance relationships.......although love doesnt c the distances...but, the value and care of the one u love may ...may...decrease....cuz the care, and time u need from ur partner isnt there.Get my point?
catch ya..
byee
I'm kind of involved in a long distance
relationship myself. She's from Uzbekistan
and we've been together for only a week,
and its been a month since she left for
Tashkent. There's been no sexual contact
between us. I've written her a letter, a card, and a printed message sent by DHL to
Tashkent. I'm desperately waiting for her
reply.
I met her at a youth camp. After four days,
I had decided that she was the one i'd been
waiting for all my life. We got very close
and shared all our time. It was very romantic. I didn't say that I loved her,
though I clearly showed it, and vice versa.
I can't get over her. I'll go to Tashkent
if I have to but I'll bring her back with me
one day and she'll be my wife. I just pray
that it happens. Please pray for me, everyone. I need it.
Love to all
Bukhari
I'm kind of involved in a long distance
relationship myself. She's from Uzbekistan
and we've been together for only a week,
and its been a month since she left for
Tashkent. There's been no sexual contact
between us. I've written her a letter, a card, and a printed message sent by DHL to
Tashkent. I'm desperately waiting for her
reply.
I met her at a youth camp. After four days,
I had decided that she was the one i'd been
waiting for all my life. We got very close
and shared all our time. It was very romantic. I didn't say that I loved her,
though I clearly showed it, and vice versa.
I can't get over her. I'll go to Tashkent
if I have to but I'll bring her back with me
one day and she'll be my wife. I just pray
that it happens. Please pray for me, everyone. I need it.
Love to all
Bukhari
Hi!
Trust me i can give you my own example. I loved a girl when i was in Karachi. Two years ago, i moved to Chicago for education, and our relationship went down the drain. I don't have any regrets about it, but still it creates a lot of mess in the head.
I can prove it to you that almost 90% of long term relationships go the same way.
Take my advice:
"There is plenty of fish in the water" and you'll find someone better!!
Saad.
hey guys
thanx for all ur replies. when i first posted this topic and no one answered i just stoped comin to this site (general). here i am after a long time and am so surprised to see so many replies.ne ways thanx
hi muzaffer
im not an old user myself. i live in canada.
and welcome to this site
umar tanwir
there was a relationship before.
ne ways saad not all ppl are the same for some ppl it may work for some it may not.
ne ways one of my own friends had told me that guys get stick with long distant relationships and i dont believe him coz not everyguy is the same but i still get confused at times.
kya karo hya kuch kuch hota hai
The answer to this question is variable with the situation invloved, but i would just like to quote an Urdu proverb:
"Ankh ojhal, pahar ojhal"