Do I have good reason to get remarried?

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Re: Do I have good reason to get remarried?

@geoaurgenaydo

I am a single mother as well, independent and financially stable … but my situation is a little different from you. I am much older in my late forties and my experience of marriage was not bitter like you . I had a great married life. Was happily married for 18 years … unfortunately lost my husband few years back.
I noticed everyone is advising u to be cautious and not consider marriage if u are not completely ready. I don’t understand what do they mean by " ready "
We all have needs , emotional and physical. Somehow in our society , if woman is financially dependent , she can justify remarriage. Somehow we deny the emotional needs and physical needs of a woman.
I would be very interested to know what suggestions do all these people have for you… How to cope with your physical needs and emotional needs? Is it not important for a healthy mind and body ?
It would be so much easier , if one can keep a boyfriend or have friends with benifits. That would be an ideal situation for you. But not sure how religious you are. Whether your religious believes would allow that or not.
My issue is that I am old fashioned and would say religiously inclined so for me that option is out.
I agree, getting married for the second time around is even more difficult cause we all have a baggage with us. But then giving up the idea and living in fear of making a w
In my humble situation, I would advice you to be on a look out… U need to have a open mind and maybe start looking. It takes time also to get to know someone. If you are lucky u may find Mr Right. But if you won’t look , u will never find one and will stay single all your life.
I have noticed that in our culture , if it’s a single father, every one around him will encourage him to get remarried. No one will tell him to think of the kids first and sacrifice. But when it comes to a woman, people will make you feel guilty for even considering re- marriage.

I don’t think you read my comment carefully. I never advised her not to get married again, if she finds a companion that she gets along great with and that accepts her child as his own then wonderful. But it is hard for a divorced desi woman with a child to get remarried. Usually it’s only other divorced men and who knows how those divorced men treated their ex wife.
Plus, it’s hard enough for a single desi woman to find a decent match. We see so many threads where the girl likes the guy and it seems mutual but then mummy ji or daddyji don’t like the girl or aren’t happy about something so there goes the rishta. Being cautious to prevent heartbreak is never a bad thing.