The story is I came second to his parent’s wishes. No future apparently. Apparently they would never give in and this was necessary to avoid more heartache in the future. I know how pressurised kids can feel because of parents and how it can affect your decisions.
We were going to make the parents come around once we both had stable jobs and such, but things went awry, his parents found out before time and he says he cannot take the chance and risk more pain in the future.
But is it not a crime to not give it a try when everything in your body says this is right? He is weaker emotionally and mentally than I. My question is should I persuade him to give it one more try at least. If it doesn’t work out, fine..at least there won’t be any regrets. Or will the pain be too great later?
If he is weaker than you are, the balance is already off in the relationship, and he will never stand up for you if there is a conflict between his family and you. Be thankful you found out before you were married.
It depends. Do you want to try and run the risk of more pain if it doesn't work out, or do you want to give up and try to move on but risk trying to cope with the regrets and what-ifs of not trying?
If he can't stand for you now, he will never do that in future! You better get out of the realtionship without pain and guilt instead of staying in one that doesn't have any future!!
I personally would not go against anyone's parents wishes, but thats just me. I would leave it, especially since he has made it clear his parents dont accept you and therefore wishes to end the relationship.