Re: Do husbands really think this way?
^ People make their own luck too. It's about how you approach the situation. Don't be influenced by people who are giving you bad advice based on superficial qualities.
If not meal ticket then should look at each other as what ?????
Do you think the GENUINE ppl are still in majority? Do you think every nice gal gets a nice husband and vice versa?
The REAL world is different. All what we are talking about is all that looks good on internet or good to publish in books. They are not and cannot be seen in real life. The ppl who find their soul mates are lucky and unluckily not everyone can be lucky. Lucky means one in thousands.
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Exactly. For every Mr Darcy there are a thousand Mr Collins. People forget this.
^ People make their own luck too. It's about how you approach the situation. Don't be influenced by people who are giving you bad advice based on superficial qualities.
I agree.
We should also take more consideration of our own instincts. Sometimes we know we are headed for something which could potentially be bad but we make excuses and dismiss it.
I think quite a number of men would feel 'inadequate' and feel it is their duty to work, regardless of what their spouse earns.
^ I think if you're not working and not raising children, then you need to be a productive member of society in some other way. You may be volunteering. You may be self-employed, keeping the house and cooking amazing, or have an extensive hobby, whatever it is. But I think if that's not the case, I could understand why a husband might feel a bit resentful, no matter how much he loves his wife.
Agree.
No way man. I love my wife to be at home. In fact, she works harder at home than what she would do at a job and if I do contribute financially then I am just doing my job, I am not doing any favors. Come to think of it, she might be doing me a favor by keeping my house a happy place for me all the times to come back to.
*niki sweeti, see I said such good things about you. Can I move my pillow back from the couch into our bedroom now *
hahaha! :D
More often than not I see women talking about how they hate being dependent on their husbands; when they marry they are still in school or still in the process of looking for work. I know financial independence is something everyone (man or woman) should be equipped wtih, however... when they say they feel bad, I just wonder...do the husbands really feel this way? do they truly feel like their wives are burdens, or resent them for not working and not contributing financially?
By the way, the women i am thinking of do not have children but are married.
My wife does my laundry. Meaning all labels of her being a burden dropped after seeing how lovingly she hand washes my clothes and socks. Not even the washing machine can tolerate what my wife goes through. May Allah bless her with a longer life so she can continue doing my laundry.
Re: Do husbands really think this way?
^ hmmm
I dont think men think their wives are burdens, but if they wife is not working, and is not doing much else at home (besides the household chores which dont take that much of ur time if u dont have a kid), then the husband may start wondering..
Re: Do husbands really think this way?
May Allah bless my husband with a long life cz no one else can handle my nakhray.
^ Lol.
^ hmmm
I dont think men think their wives are burdens, but if they wife is not working, and is not doing much else at home (besides the household chores which dont take that much of ur time if u dont have a kid), then the husband may start wondering..
I think women realize their talents are being wasted at home before their husbands do. So they'll be the first ones to talk to their husbands about it.
I told my wife to get more education and not worry about the fees. I got that taken care of.
Re: Do husbands really think this way?
no we dont. We are very happy to uthaoo naz-nakhrey of begamaaat
hen they say they feel bad, I just wonder...do the husbands really feel this way? do they truly feel like their wives are burdens, or resent them for not working and not contributing financially?
No. I believe it should be a woman's choice if she wants to work or not. I don't feel my wife as a burden for not working. In a household, duties need to be shared. However, if she is not on a job, she should feel the responsibility of taking care of the household duties.
To me it is clearly a woman's choice...whatever she wants to do in life. I am doctor by profession...so no financial issues here Alhamdullillah. But i do prefer ghar walli type larki who knows how to balance her house and work. If i meet someone like that i will be luckiest person. Btw i do wonder if these kind of women do exist.