This has happened twice now, which is why I am thinking maybe this is the reason for it happening.
So I am talking to a student who is going to the same uni I will be going to for the Winter term. I was sending him emails because I had a lot of questions about the uni, the MSA there, etc. He was very polite and answered me, even if it took two to three days to respond. Then I added him to my MSN and sometimes would ask him a question or two. Both times on MSN he answered me just fine.
Then one day I was talking to him on MSN and he asks me where I am from (what country). He knows only that I am muslim (he is also muslim). Just after asking me where I was from, he says, “I think you grew up in Pakistan, right?” I responded I am Pakistani and that I grew up in the States.
Then I ask him where he is from, and I say the same thing, “I think you grew up in Pakistan right”? Then it was total silence. After a little while, he responded that he is infact of a mixed background (neither of which is Pakistani), and that he did not grow up in Pakistan. Well, it pretty much went downhill from there.
I told him his background is interesting (as it is to me), and since he didnt really seem to respond after that, I just went offline.
So a few days later I come online and hes online and I ask a question, and all I get are question marks. No hello, nothing. So I ask a question, get a one word reply, and he leaves. Then I come on a second day and ask him another question, this time he says its not him, that he is someone else. So I try this again once or twice, same thing. He says it isnt him using the MSN account. sigh Perhaps its true, I dont know.
But then I sent an email to see if he would respond. I had a legitimate question, but he never emailed me back. It’s been a week now, and before he never took long to respond.
So now I am feeling very awkward. Does he hate me for saying that I think he is Pakistani and grew up there? I only said that because his english was broken, and I didnt mean it as an insult at all. I didnt take it as an insult that he thought I grew up there.
I am assuming this might be the reason because I remember a long time ago that I asked someone the same thing and after I said I thought they grew up in Pak, I was completely ignored.
Is it an insult to assume something like that, and tell someone that you think they grew up abroad? I mean what did I do wrong? afsoos
I dont want him to be mad at meeeeeeeeeeeee, and I cant even bring it up cause I dont really know him and he will think I am a total nut.
Would you be insulted if I said I think you grew up abroad?? Is that really a horrible thing to say to someone? People ask me that all the time and I dont get offended. Am I clueless or what?? afsoos
I want to apologize to him if I hurt his feelings but how in the world do I bring up something like this to someone I dont even know?!
