Re: Do goras lead more care free lives, compared to us desis?
aam, your view is totally messed up. I'm a gori and havent met anyone with any of the issues you raised. No one. well, maybe some who are unhappy. The other issues, sure they exist...somewhere I guess. But definitely not the norm.
and gr8, its really funny to hear that you think Dr Phil and Oprah's "guests" are typical people! If they had typical people on their shows then their ratings would fall thru the floor, the audience would be snoring and the shows would be cancelled.
Goris and goras have issues for sure. Perhaps more freedoms that Desis but that comes with more stresses I think. You have to grow up faster here in the west, you have to become responsible earlier in the west I think.
As far as marriage, the whole dating thing is just as stressful (or perhaps more so!) than arrangements! But don't fool yourself, gr8 and aam...by thinking the parents have no say. Parents absolutely care who their children marry and absolutely have some say. Its a different way of parenting, to raise and teach your children right from the start to make good choices in all they do rather than make choices for them.
No one can say goris are better or worse than desis....just different.