I’ve always had this fairytale image of weddings as the bride’s day to be stunning and enjoy her princess wedding. I expect that her family and friends would go out of their way to make sure that the bride experiences no stress, but of course, this is not always the case.
I went to my cousin’s wedding in Lahore this year, and I experienced the opposite. Lots of chaos behind the scenes, lots of drama, and the bride herself was too tired and stressed to enjoy it very much. And other family members acknowledged that they are not too concerned about making it special for the bride, they were more concerned with making sure the people attending the wedding were happy.
I’m planning on get married in a year or two, and I was ready to spend a lot on the wedding, but if it’s true that I won’t enjoy it anyway, should I not bother with spending too much on the wedding and just spend it on the honeymoon instead?
Brides, did you enjoy your wedding day? If not, what could have been done that would have allowed you to enjoy the most special day of your life? And for the unmarried girls, do you expect to enjoy your wedding day?
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well if one has any family at all i mean parents n sibblings ,they sud try n make it as special for their girl as possible.
if the parents n sibblings are more concernd about em selves or the guests, then it cud be a problem.
mine was actually the worst nightmare of my life, but if the rest of ur life is a smooth sail does that even matter how happy and perfect ur wedding day was, life is not just about those few hours.
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I did :) alhamdulillah
Whats the point of tiring and stressing about every little detail to try to please every single guest if that means that you yourself will be going out of your mind and will not even enjoy what should be such a beautiful and special day for you. If there is too much to do, have a group from your family or friends, or consider hiring a wedding planner, and delegate to them and then learn to trust them to do a good job. Things dont always go as you plan, so be ready for that and dont fall apart if everything isnt going exactly according to your plan. You can be happy or you can be miserable --its up to you :)
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I have heard the same… that it is super stressful… i even hear stories about brides not even having the chance to eat at their own weddings for whatever reason So one is tired, stressed and hungry.
I think it should be a good balance…spend the amount of money you want to on your wedding to make it special for you … but at the same time keep in the back of your mind to do this stuff to make yourself happy and not be doing it for the “duniya”. the “Duniya” is going to talk and hate no matter what. No need to go out your way for them.
I personally will want to spend more on my honeymoon personally … Thats just me tho.
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I had the best time at my mehndi and wedding. Everyone that I loved was there and it was great seeing them. There were some hiccups, but I didnt let that get to me. I just let everything flow. If it was meant to be then great...if something else was meant to be, its fine too. Two of the most happiest days of my life!!
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My wedding was the best day of my life. I think it was because I didnt try to make teh day all about ME and gasps and oohs and aahs. For example a friend of mine who got married just a week before me really wanted her dress to be like the biggest deal ever. She hid the colors designing etc from everyone for months and basically went alone to get her makeup etc done. For that one moment when she entered and everyone got up to see her dress I think she kinda ruined the whole experience for herself. Me on the other hand, literally had atleast 8 friends with me through out the whole day. Even when I was up in the "bridal room" waiting for the baraatess to arrive, the room was full of all my friends and even aunties were coming up to see me. I didnt care about having a "magical moment" when i entered, and still somehow those moments happened. When I entered the hall everyone still got up and were really excited about seeing me. I guess sharing your happiness with others actually will make you be happier on the day as opposed to trying to impress everyone and just being the queen/superior to all others. I didnt get angry when half of my friends were wearing the same colors as me or the DJ messed up on my entrance song because I was so glad to see that instead of a 3 tier cake I had miraculously gotten a 5 tier and instead of having just candies and chocolates as favors for the guests we also had boxes of ladoos as a take-home present cuz my in-laws brought soo much mithai. I mean it as a pretty awesome wedding cuz my friends had fun and I had fun with them. People were just sooo freakin happy to be there and that made me feel so loved I still get goosebumps thinking about the day. Just the experience as a whole made me soo much more appreciative of my friends who threw me surprise bachelorette parties and went through pains to wear whatever I wanted them to wear on the mehndi, prepare dances, make speeches, etc.
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I am not married yet but i plan too in a year or two Inshallah. I am planning on enjoying every single min! The only visions i have so far is about my dresses, i have them all planned out and i hope they meet my expectations. Inshallah they will.
I am 99% sure it will be stress-free as i am the youngest and everyone has always seen me as the baby will help me out no matter what, And so is my future hubby the youngest and his dad has already promised us a huge wedding we'll both enjoy Inshallah.
I am 100% sure its gonna be a fun wedding, and in *my *mind all i care about is me my hubby that were happy and enjoying *our *day no one or nothing can *ever *spoil the day. Inshallah. When i do get started with everything... I'll deffo let you guys know how its going.. But lets jus get the 'serving chai' Rishta out the way first :p
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i enjoyed mine..but what put me off was the heavy jewellery and clothes...i had the worst headache ever!! I wanted to quickly go home!! lol
I also am a perfectionist and organise mainly any parties in our family..so i was sitting at the stage looking at my brothers and sisters and giving them ishaarein to do things LOL...
but i enjoyed myself...the day had no hiccups alhumdulilah..
i ddint get any dinner, but then when i went 2 my hubbys house sum1 bought food for us from the venue and we had dinner..but to be quite truthful, hardly ever do groom and bride get 2 eat...!
So one is tired, stressed and hungry.
Thats just me tho.