Most of the time the girl will be living with the parents, and if the family is horrible-life will be hell no matter how wonderful the guy is.
Unless he himself is not associated with his family at all, a guy is a product of his parents, the upbringing etc. Chances are, he will get sick of the constant bickering between wife/parents/siblings and one will end up suffering.
hmmm...what you said is logical but "love has no logic".
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I have an extremely loving relationship with my in-laws mashAllah...they treat me the same as my sister in law (hubs sis) whatever they buy for her, same for me...in turn i treat them like my own parents, even if my mum in law ever tells samjha's me about somethin i never take it personally...when i got hitched i didnt force myself on them, we developed a natural trustworthy bond which took time...my sister in law comes over, she never lets me do any work in my own house she takes over and makes me relax...when i go over i do her share of the work and make her relax. Even when I went to pak, my mum in law gave me all her new jewellry to wear coz some it matched my suits. Just like a mum would do. I am extremely lucky alhamdulillah. We can go out and have a laugh together, no issues...when my mum in law is over my husband gets totally ignored coz once we start talking we dont stop. lol she phones me everyday and she tells me stuff that she doesnt tell her son even, she confides in me. She knows im on her side..when i was ill and went to hospital she cooked for us everyday and dropped fresh khana off to us..just like a mum would! parents just want love, sometimes we just misunderstand the in laws ..we just need to treat them like our own!
My in-laws are lovely people. i dont have much of a close relationship with them, theyre in pakistan and me and hubby are not, but theyre very warm and welcoming and i have a lot of affection for them.
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see how boring this thread is due to the lovey-dovey-ness of it, now this is all we had in Life 1 think about what farig log will do all day? How will we share our wisdom on every situation ever created?
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seems like every inhabitant of life 1 has a good relationship with her in-laws… i wonder where all the complaining threads come from 
But isn't that rather silly to leave a good guy just because he has nasty parents?
true thats silly.......you have to spend your life with the guy and if he is good to you than what else do you need.....my in laws are also not so good but still i dont want to break my engagment because my fiance is too nice to me..
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have heard the bad relationships thread go on and on and on in pages…but this thread is…
, come on people posto about good in-laws na:)
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my relations with my inlaws is excellent, it does help that i've known em all my life, so that helps. :D
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They are too busy *****ing about their in laws to read or respond to this thread.
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We have a good relationship after many years and the setting of some ground rules (on both sides). Any close interpersonal will have its ups and downs. That relationship will be made more difficult when there are significant cultural differences. My husband was the first in his family to marry out, and he did so while "engaged" (without his permission) to someone else in the family, he was the first to choose his own career, the first to buy his own home, and the first to lead a somewhat independent life. I have received the brunt of my MILs frustration with him over the years.
Eventually, she realized I wasn't going away, and we both explored what behaviors we can live with in the other and what we can't. It's not perfect, but it works.
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Your inlaws will never be like your immediate family. In very very rare situations you might actually see that (I have never seen it). The main reason is that both families will be different, which include their differing opinions, ideals, manners, etc. Therefore, something that may have seemed fine in your family will not be ok with them. Likewise, something that they do may seem obnoxious to you. The best advice I can give is to keep a healthy distance from your inlaws and realize you will have many differences. There is no reason to hang out with them ALL the time or call them to your place ALL the time. You should be respectful of everyone and you should be respected as well. I think that's the best solution to keeping a healthy relationship with the inlaws.
I have a pretty good relationship with my inlaws. I respect and care for them and am returned the same favor. There is no reason for me to be all up in their business and would hate it if they did that to me. So keep a distance and be respectful and as long as they arent morons out to make your life hell, you shouldn't have a problem.
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Alhumdulillah, I have an amazing relationship with my MIL -
Not all relationships are perfect, every family has their ups and downs - personalities and the way you do things is very different so finding common ground becomes the issue mostly -
My IL's are the kind to always try and know whats up with us.. but me and my hubz are pretty private - so we keep most of our things to ourself unless its something that we have to talk about -
Hmm i think CM asked for guppans who had good relationships with their inlaws, why would someone come and complain in this thread then?
I feel that only those who live in a shared household with their inlaws can truly understand this complex relation and can answer this question honestly. Otherwise yeah if you are living thousand miles apart and talk over the phone whats the worse that can happen?? Unless ofcourse there are some really evil parties involved.
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^ agree with that.
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I have an awesome relationship with my inlaws too… :k:
thats why love shove before marraige is bad.