divorces

seeing so many divorces around, good women and men – young people our age group, who are capable of happy marriages, are damn scared of divorces.

that personal sense of confidence in a developing new relationship only has to come from the trust that a couple has between themselves,

religion has clearly said that divorcing is one disturbing act that is lawful but really must be avoided at all costs.

it must be also seen clearly that when domestic violence and torture takes place, and the woman and the man are a threat to each other, they should separate for good.

consultative intermediations can work, so long as both sides are willing to met and talk to save their marriage, especially to have a proper family life, if they got kids.

however, in male dominated and politically disgusting cultural settings, where the target board is women blaming the victim.

absolutely unjust cultural traditions of holding women disadvantaged or treating men as male goats to be married here or married there, obnoxious familial interferences, selfish motives of the men or women, or insensitivity are all huge factors that can totally destroy the marriage and lead it to a horrible divorce situation.

so, given all this, what can young generation of people who are planning to marry, take a lesson from all this, and make a promise to themselves and each other as a couple, that they wont let interactions become so difficult that separating and divorcing is the ultimate ending of the relationship.

any thoughts on this?

dushwari
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As one who has been thru divorce, I think I can give a bit of advice....

First is to marry only when mature enough. Although most 18 year olds think they are mature, they arent ready for married life and the responsibilities and lifelong committment that a marriage requires. Most 18 year olds will be very different people 5 to 10 years down the road.

Next is to KNOW your intended, their hopes and dreams, their wants and desires, what they want from life. Does it mesh with what YOU want?

These questions cannot be answered in an immature way, not that I'm accusing all 18 year olds of immaturity, I'm just saying that the life plans and desires can and do change with age and experience.

Once there are children, you cannot take your own desires of life into consideration because they no longer matter at least not nearly as much as your children and their needs matter. And children need BOTH parents and all that each can give them. So be sure, like I was!

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what can go wrong, when hopes and dreams are over come by apprehnsions and utter lack of love, and sour the total relationship before it ever gets formed, is the loss of inner happiness of the person who thought that he/she were almost there to be with each other and someone cursed them to become separated. in it self,
it's not God's doing.

Re: divorces

And to marry only when they feel ready for marriage.

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yeah, that is true. people are so scared of marriage that their compassion is well shy of comitting nobly and for life time or they are habitual in denying true affiliation time and again.
so yea, they are not ready for marriage to a certain person and maybe to someone else and to someone else and to someone else still.
:)

dushwari

Re: divorces

Its the sign of a consumer society.

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I totally agree!!:k: