divorced women

[Reha]

@diamond321

I believe that sometimes Allah put you through alot of pain & azmaish before He gives you the ultimate reward. Reward may not be in this life , may be in after life. I also believe that when one is in pain Allah uskay gunah maaf farmata hai so I think it’s better to pay for your gunahs here then in next life.

Wife running away with someone … Allah kabhi apko kuch dey kar azmata hai kabhi kuch wapas ley kar. When Allah gives you spouse then you should fulfil huqooq of your spouse. I believe this is a test from Allah too that He checks you how well you behave with your spouse. If you cheat your spouse then Allah will take account of it because I believe woh sab sey bara insaaf karnay wala hai. If the wife cheats and the husband still shows sabar , divorce happens and he does not take the revenge on his own and leaves everything on Allah then I believe Allah will reward him.

I Believe that rewards comes in all forms , sometimes its a good spouse , sometimes the sukoon and happiness that one feels in his/her life when the life is not even perfect , health , ability to fear Allah and worship him etc etc

but these are just my believes because this is how I look at things. Because I believe that mera Allah kabhi na insaafi nahi karta He takes into account each and everything but He has his own ways which our little human brain can not understand.

You said it well.

I know of a few divorced women actually. And QUITE a few are married Mashallah. One of them married a man that was never-married. One married another divorcee and now have a daughter. One married another divorcee and now have 2 daughters. Plenty more…

When I think about remarriage…I think of all the things I didnt think about the first time. Like getting to know him really well versus trusting the aunti who says “larka bohot acha hai, bas aap ankh band karke kardein”. I dont think about money as I realized early in life that paisa aani jaani cheez hai and Alhumdulillah Allah swt has given me the capability to make my own. So, his financial status never meant much to me even before I got married. What does matter to me much more now is his mentality, how he thinks, his goals, his treatment of others, his manners, his morals, etc. I need to like his head so I can like his face. Make sense?

Am I much more compromising? Ummm…I dont think so. I think Ive actually learned exactly what my priorities should be and just reorganized them. Ive learned to control my ego. Ive also learned that marriage is not about finding the perfect person…rather the person whose imperfections are perfect for you.

Have I lowered my standards because Im divorced? No. In fact, finding an educated man is simpler than finding a morally upstanding one.

When the topic comes up (it does quite a bit now) I do think Im leaning more towards someone who has been through a similar ordeal as myself. Meaning, Im not sure if it would work with someone who isnt divorced. Would they be able to understand?