"Divorced" Psychopath Cousin

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Its really none of your business. Leave her alone and let her deal with it and live your life in peace.

And I find it a little difficult to believe that she was up to really maliciuos activities that just a simple name change could hide--but thats just my naivete.

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Wow.....I used to think GS was a friendly forum....this was my FIRST time posting a problem on GS and I think it will be my LAST time.....I am not meddling in her affairs....I just wanted to get others' perspective on this matter but I guess most are not understanding my intention.
Thanks everyone! Sorry for getting everyone so upset about this topic :P

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Ummmm.....i dont see why ur so caught up in her drama? let her do wot she wants and u shud jst get on with ur own life....wotever her actions are she will suffer the consequences.....so if i wer u..i wud back off.

However if u do want to get urself involved then u might have to suffer some consequenses urself too.....thats all the advice i can give :)

P.S: after reading wot u wrote up there, i wud jst like to add......ur intentions mayb to help but sumtimes the best way to help someone is to leave them alone...

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If she is your cousin and you look out for her best interest then you worry about her using her ex husbands name. You should help her rebuild her life but putting her ex husband after her is not going to help anywone. .If she is using his name still to cover her tracks then let her because it shows she thinks whatever she did in the past was bad and she had to start all over again. Let her do that. It tells me she has remorse on whatever happened in the past.

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What exactly were you expecting when you decided to posta personal thread?

When you post something so personal on an open forum, don't be surprised when people will disagree with you or tell you something you dont want to hear.

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^ I agree. Don't worry about her so much and tell her when she is wrong. I also believe one should not play a role of an enabler, that only causes situation to deteriorate. You should know when to support her and when to put an stop to her deviant behaviour. Don't support her in her lies but do support her in trying to move on. You are the best judge here... no one can fully understand your position here since it's pretty one sided.

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You take Step I of the boards after your second year of med school, and Step II during your fourth year. If she's applying to residency, she has already taken Step I at the very least.

In any case, like I said before, it's not really your concern.

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[mod]Stick to the topic and quit the personal attacks! If you find the OP or her thread so offensive, just move along![/mod]

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If she did anything that bad that's it's so easy to research her wrongdoings, she would probably have been denied admission to med school or kicked out of med school by now.

If there are skeletons in the Closet and this is her desperate way of making sure she gets a job, then the last thing you should do is mess with her livlihood. You don't know the whole story yourself so no use in you getting involved. Wish her the best and move on with your life. If she truly is a horrible person, Karma will catch up with her.

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I know that when one creates a thread in public forum, one has to be prepared to all sorts of opinions. As Sara516 mentioned earlier, you can't expect everyone to agree with you.

I am, however, surprised by several of the reactions in this thread. This particular forum deals with relationships. So many people post about the SAME OLD ISSUES. It sounds redundant. Examles: My mother-in-law did this. My Sister-in-Law is too secretive. My friend is not taking an interest in my life. Yada yada yada. Should we respond to all these posters by telling them, "Mind your own business" ????

Stop beetching about your MIL.....n mind your own business. Stop worrying about what your so n so is doing or not doing.......n mind your own business. Stop wondering why your friend failed to invite you.......n mind your own business. IF that's the outlook we're going to have, then nobody should post in this forum at all. If someone is frustrated, upset, hurt, or annoyed, or confused, or concerned................we'll just abruptly **and **brusquely respond with "What's it to you? Who are you to even doubt someone's intentions? Mind your own business."

^A response to a post can be worded NICELY. Because **MANY OF YOU **have created threads about your own concerns and hoped that someone would reply in a nice (not abrupt) manner. Some of the threads may have sounded "silly" or even "over the top." Now we get a thread that's slightly "hat ke" or "different" from the usual spouse and in-laws threads.........and it's like people are so irritable.

I agree with Barbieque..........although her post has been deleted. I thought I was the only one who felt some of the responses were harsh. With one person even making a bad-dua to the poster!!!!!!! Funnily enough, this poster herself was freaking out about black magic and relatives making bad-dua towards her, and she herself made bad-dua for a fellow poster. How does that make you different from your relatives? What is this?????

The creator of the thread, in all fairness, said that there are **TWO **sides to the story. She hasn't taken any action yet, people. She's only trying to gain some insight/understanding about the issue. That's what sensible people do. They get opinions before acting. To shoot her down is wrong.

Sgal

^I'm also trying to look at it from Mirch's point of view. Perhaps your cousin is trying to "get a fresh start" by using a different name and maybe she feels remorse for her previous actions. BUT..........if she did feel remorse..........then why is she continuing to talk bad about her ex whilst also using his name??????

This issue can be looked at from various points of view. If your cousin has ill-intentions, then she'll get what's coming. We can only speculate here and hope that she can steer herself and her life in a more positive direction. Sheesh, it's like there's a full moon tonight on GS....where several posters (the aam ones and Mods) are not responding patiently.

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You're welcome OP. I'm surprised you're finding GS unwelcoming, I guess I missed out on a lot since my last post. Mirch gave very good advice. I'm just trying to look at your issue from all sides. You know her better and would be more likely to know her motives. I would advise that your cousin get rid of the guy from her life if she wants to move on. It's the healthy thing to do. Less tension for her, her family, and him. She needs to stop thinking about him and stop talking to people about him- it's worked well with my divorced friends.

I think she's concerned because it's her cousin who I think she wrote lives with her. I guess it's that whole thing that if you see someone doing something wrong, you should guide them to do what's correct. Several hadiths on that. The OP thinks that the name is being used without the ex-hubby's knowledge and for the wrong reasons.

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May sound retarded, but what does OP stand for?

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I think there are crazy people in every profession that background checks are becoming meaningless. Principals, teachers, pastors, imams, doctors- so many sickos in all different fields who go by unnoticed. Wasn't there that story about some med student in Boston who had issues and murdered someone? And that VTech guy who went on the rampage but posted all the hints on his online journal.

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I assumed it stands for original poster...? Crap, maybe I've been wrong all along and OP stands for something else.

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That makes sense. Thanks :)

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Im pretty sure OP stands for "original poster" if not...then about 99% of us have been wrong all along :)

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calling your own cousin a PSYCHOPATH on public forum says it all !

you are not in her shoes so please let her handle her life .

she can use SHAHRUKH KHAN as her surname if she wants to , can you stop her ? or will you go and complain to Shahrukh Khan ?

wish her well instead of labelling her as a "PSYCHOPATH DIVORCEE "

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^LOL

can everyone stop attacking her? she can call her a psychopath if she wants to! we dont know what kind of person she's dealing with!

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I think sometimes, when we're frustrated with people who have treated us in a negative manner so many times, might refer to our husband, mother-in-law, sibling, cousin, relative, friend as "crazy" or "evil" or "psycho", etc etc.

I don't think that the poster is trying to say that divorce makes a person a psychopath. Just because someone is divorced does not mean that they're unstable.

The poster has said that there are two sides to the story. She's not saying that the divorce makes her cousin a psychopath. I think she means that her cousin's frequently harmful and offensive behaviors (possibly even prior to marriage) make it hard for others to trust her.

Anyhow, we don't know all the details as Beeni has mentioned above. InshaAllah, all the parties involved in this story (the cousin, her ex) will find peace in their lives.

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calling her psychopath on a public forum can be termed as DEFAMATION in legal terms :naraz:

I hope she is not a guppan :smack2: