I have a cousin in medical school and she currently lives with me. We were really close but grew apart because of her personality. From a young age, she’s been using people and has been materialistic. She has a troubled history, full of drama that she brought upon herself. My cousin got married recently and 4 months after her nikkah, she was divorced (just 1 month before her rukhsati). She and her family started talking bad about her husband immediately and people are believing everything they say when there are two sides to a story. As much as I want to give her the benefit of the doubt, I know her well and I know she lies too. I recently found out that she had immediately changed her last name to her husband’s name after the nikkah; however, despite the recent divorce, she IS still using her ex-husband’s last name in school and in legal documents pertaining to residency applications. I suspect she did this because of her troubled history. She was engaged in some malicious activities that ruined her reputation which is evident on numerous websites on the net if one were to look under her actual name. This is perhaps the reason why she is using her ex-husband’s name, to further herself, and hide her tracks (she has done similar things in the past to cover her past).
It upsets me that she is using his name and defaming him at the same time. This isn’t helping her graciously move on from the relationship. I know the ex-husband somewhat and want to let him know that his ex-wife (who he didn’t even live with nor spend any significant time with) is using his name- perhaps without his knowledge. But if I tell him, it might cause problems in my house. If it was easy to talk to her parents, I would have done that a long time ago. They blindly support their daughter when others know she’s wrong. I’ve tried reasoning with her, but she doesn’t want to hear it. I wanted to know what you think I should do. Is it normal for people to use their ex-husband’s name even if they never had their rukhsati? Since I know the guy, should I pick a friend over family and tell him?
