Divorced people on GS

[baji99]

Re: Divorced people on GS

@salaam2k14

But what if you were one of the stay at home moms or home makers that so many desi women are before separating or divorcing? I mean almost all my desi friends are stay at home moms with two or three kids, imagine them separating out from an abusive or painful marriage. With us desi people, status is everything and most likely living in an apartment would be the reality even with alimony and child support until years later when a small house can be bought.

Desi women give up their careers to take care of the children because daycare centers are a last option.

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If you were a stay at home mom it would be so much harder (almost impossible) which is why many women stay in a bad marriage. They would need financial help, either from family or government assistance. Some women go back to work, usually low paying menial jobs so would still need help. I know of some women leaving after the kids were grown so the kids were the ones to support them. As for desi status, you are marked for life and looked down upon. But that should be the least of your worries. That’s where emotional strength and support from family and friends comes in. Leaving an abusive/bad mariage is never easy and no woman does this for fun. It is for her own sanity and to protect the children. May Allah bless and look after any woman in this situation.