how could two people who are divorced still be good friends or even want to ever see each other again? just HOW is this possible? its beyond my understanding.
if they can remain friends couldn’t they remain married?
i think this is a western concept to the core…
sounded sooo strange…a friend’s cousin recently got divorced and she was telling me her cousin and her ex husband are still ‘best friends’ and now the girl is looking for another girl for the guy
i was in SHOCK! cant stop thinking abt it. how can this relationship be humanly possible…? maybe boht bara dil hona chahida is wastay which i dont think having is humanly possible…?
someone want to shed some light on this matter…? mehrbani
hmmm its like having a best friend that you can talk to about everything and knwo them inside out and love them to bits but its impossible for u to live with them....
maybe they had a mutual agreement that they couldnt live with one another and be intimate...?
maybe they were forcefully wed and then got divorced and since they know each other now maybe thats why continue their frienship? i guess ... dun know ...
The only people i know who are friends after a divorce are a married couple who stayed friends b/c of tgheir kids......i think it's really odd to be honest...
to get to divorce...is a very rough thing.. don't know how you can forget that nd still be friends...
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*Originally posted by kewlsolara: *
its pretty simple,
Being best friends dosent really mean that you can be good husband and wife.
simple as , being good husband and wife dosent mean that you can end up being the best friends.
Divorce can happen due to any reason,
cheating , financial issue, beating, kids, familes, work relatedetc etc.
so there is nothing wrong in being good friends after divorce as long as its just friends and no physical contact and your future partners accept it .
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*Originally posted by ophiolites: *
DISAgree with you Kewlsolara
it is quite impossible if they were cheating each other how can they remain best friends this is why htey separated.
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I think kewslolara gave several reasons and cheating was just one of the possibilities.
People can divorce due to incompatibility as husband and wife, but still have enough in common to be good friends.
or maybe they forgave each other, after all some people stay married even after a partner's infidelity is found, or stay married even if there are domestic issues, so why is it not possible that they end their marriage, but maintain social contact.
Irem , its not a western concept. Its about having the heart to let your ex-spouse live and be caring of them since they were an integral part of your life. You don’t just stop and drop someone because of a few incidences. Yes, it does take a bigger heart and being understanding of the matter, being mature but its not a western concept. Some divorces are messy while others are mutually understanding. Essentially, it depends on the couple and the individuals in the relationship. Why do you think its recommended in Islam for the man to find his ex-wife another or support her? We’re taught to be loving of each other regardless of our misdemeanors. Some take a life time and others never grow a spine to come out of their selfish shell to care of others or having to be the bigger person. Its very possible only if you let yourself.
You see, 'we' in the West don't judge people merely on what they had to go through in life. We like to give the benefit of the doubt to humans and realize not everbody is perfect. People do go through life-changing experiences. A couple who is divorced still has some obligation (if not more) towards eachother as human beings. So, it is OK if they treat each other with respect and remain friends.
There is more to being a human than judge others based on the circumstances beyond one's control.
I know, in the East we love to judge people based on their marital status. That to me is very weird.
dont get that…just can not get it
, its not a western concept. Its about having the heart to let your ex-spouse live and be caring of them since they were an integral part of your life. You don’t just stop and drop someone because of a few incidences. Yes, it does take a bigger heart and being understanding of the matter, being mature but its not a western concept. Some divorces are messy while others are mutually understanding. Essentially, it depends on the couple and the individuals in the relationship. Why do you think its recommended in Islam for the man to find his ex-wife another or support her? We’re taught to be loving of each other regardless of our misdemeanors. Some take a life time and others never grow a spine to come out of their selfish shell to care of others or having to be the bigger person. Its very possible 
only if you let yourself.