How do men feel about divorce? We all know how women think and how they are seen afterwards and women genreally have we have to make it work no matter what mentality but is divorce really that big of a deal for a guy? Or is it like if we end up falling out of love or whatever we can just divorce her...
Yes, it cost a lot and you end up losing more than half of what ever you worked for and then there’s custody issues. For paki/muslim guys there’s still a stigma around getting divorced, its def a big deal for us especially in families where we barely know any divorced men or women. You’re expected to stick it out
I m till death do us part kind of man.
It is equally important/significant for a man… the reason for the a lot of violence is that divorce is a no no…so within marriage, people do all sorta weird stuff…
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I think it varies from person to person but It affects men as well. I do believe men also try to make the relationship works unless they really don’t care or have no care for the other person feelings or are just too proud and live in a bubble.
Very big deal. Growing up without both parents was very painful. Cant imagine putting my kids through that.
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Attitudes toward divorce varies from person to person. Also I?ve seen young people being mislead by people they look up to for advice in such situations. As we?ve often seen how clueless most relatives/friends of a couple are when it comes to getting married, it?s far worse when it comes to addressing marital disputes.
Most of my classmates from undergrad who married each other have now divorced. All of them knew each other quite well before marriage and to my knowledge are good people. But from what I heard about each case was lack of flexibility and compromise.
Usually guys chase girls and overpromise and when they are unable to keep those promises after marriage, disappointments set in. To make matters worse, there is always that aggressive brother or wealthy father/uncle on girl?s side who makes sure the guy is put in his place. At times they succeed but mostly one thing leads to another and eventually to divorce.
Statistically most divorces are filed by women. It is very common for women to fall out of love and develop this strong urge to leave early on. If a woman has wise advisors and she is able to suppress that urge, she can be happier ten years later compared to those who quit according to this study. I had always wondered what might be the hikmat of not allowing women to seek divorce on arbitrary grounds, perhaps that is it.
In our society it’s not a good sign that a women got divorce , .
The stigmas we have towards divorce stem from our outdated male dominated feudal heritage. Muhammad son of Abdullah married a divorced woman much older than him. You talk about sunnat lets heed to this sunnat.
Which divorced older woman did Muhammad marry? Khadijah was widowed NOT divorced you ullu k pathey…stop spreading lies
My apologies - widowed. Idea being her marriage to Muhammad (SA) was not her first one. And she was much older than him.
I think one of his wife Zaynab bint Jahsh was a divorced women
Life01, I have read three or four of your threads around marriage issues. Are you communicating these issues with your parents? Are you living with the guy/husband or living with parents?
Both males and females have unrealistic expectations, many who have nothing at all to offer consider themselves a gift to humanity. I can’t get over my wife’s nephews wedding, the girl is not very educated, is not working, can’t cook, is way below average in looks, was divorced once and a failed long-term relationship is not active and still displays a lot of attitudes. I blame his father for raising such dumb boys…oh on top of that she lacks in sharafat also. I am still in shock!!
the key is don’t over/under estimate yourself and don’t have unrealistic expectations.
I have been divorced and i can tell you..it has negatively effected me for sometime. But after couple of years, i snapped out of it. My feelings were natural as any other fella out there who went through rough time. But heyy..it is that rough time that makes us who we are so i learned from whatever the shortcomings i had in personal sense.
Yes it would be lie to say i didn’t love my ex-wife. But more than that, I grew more stronger to love my wife for what and who she is as a person.
Marriage require work on yourself and vice versa. That is this opportunity which keeps us growing in love for better or worst.