I beg to differ with you and OP completely.
B- Regardless what a man does all his life and spend money on whoever including in-laws, this should not make 'him' dodge haq Mehr.
Two different things. *One is gift and other is obligation.* There is no self made excuse to go against what is right thing to do.
It is very easy to talk from a third person's perspective. I understand the difference between gift and obligation. I think it is important that we differentiate between what is practical and theoretical.
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**A real man should think of mehr BEFORE MARRIAGE. Not at the time of divorce. That's being COWARD AND CHEATER.
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I think that very few people plan for divorce before marriage. It is very easy to talk about pre-nupital agreements and all that. I seriously would think twice if my fiancee came and talked about pre-nupital agreements.
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C- For those who are focusing on Pakistan only, its not just in Pakistan, this kind of act is universal and lawyers and people around the world may try to do the same thing.
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I am not talking about Pakistan my dear friend. I am from India and thought I would add an Indian perspective to this.
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D- How can a man be so dumb to lose job and everything like that, as the example you gave? Are you sure he is not mentally ill or something else was cooking somewhere in that relation? Anyhow I am unable to call her a B**** not knowing the details.
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Maybe you have not heard about the recession. The recession is for real and this friend of mine got laid off from the company he was working in. Imagine loosing a job and getting a notice for divorce at the same time. If that does not make a person a mental wretch, I dont know what can.
Good that you are unable to call her a B**** before you know the entire details.