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^OMG!!!
I do know of a case where the MIL didn't want the couple to shut their bedroom door when going to bed.
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Hmmm... The above examples are most extraordinary!
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No hugging , kissing and** jaldi se ker k** farigh ho bus
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Guy should have said, "Mama Kia karke? "
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i think she let them shut the door, lol!
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That's disgusting, sara!
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^ i know...but its true....
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No way I do not believe this.
that family must have serious mental problems if this is true
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No way I do not believe this.
you are not the only one.
I am pretty sure she is making it up as shes going along.
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i'm sorry but I aint buying this story ....
what mom or dad is actually going to be this explicit with their children?!? and what mentally challanged children are actually going to abide by those instructions?!?
too many improbables in one scenario bring this way way way close to being impossible!
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I don't know if it's reason enough for people to say no but it sure does raise some eyebrows on the proposing side. They usually really dig deep into finding the reason behind the divorce. I don't know, I feel like it's becoming less of an issue now.
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Omg @ sarashahid's example. Did anyone ever think of taking that mom to a psychiatrist?
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You guys can believe what you want. Its very well known in our family. Perhaps it sounds too bad to believe, but its true. Lets hope none of us runs into such guys. And the mother did say k "gunnah hota hai unnecessarily physical hona, tou bus jaldi se ker k farigh hona, and no hugging kissing jo filmon main dikhate hain" or something along those lines. Its up to the listener to believe what she wants. I know I believe it, I've met the couple on various occasions.
@Monk No I'm not making it up as I go along,you dont even know me, or the couple. Anyway, to each his own.
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Omg @ sarashahid's example. Did anyone ever think of taking that mom to a psychiatrist?
Who would take her? the sons? they are made so guilty by their mom that they don't questions her. The way she cries in public, its crazy! beating herself on the chest etc. Sometimes i think they have been abused when they were younger. I dont know by whom, but I suspect it. Anyway thts the only explanation I have for their behaviour. And my khala was saying "aise tou bhut ladke kerte hain"....I was like whatttt?? Perhaps they have been brought up this way? Its hard to let go of emotional scars inflicted when you were younger.
As for the second scenario, that is my own cousin.
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Oh the girl isnt divorced, and doesnt plan on asking for it.
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That's it. Either the mother is imaginary, mad, or sexually attracted to her sons.
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^ point is 'problem exists'
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@sarashahid: The mother in first scenario is definitely sick, and so are the sons. All of them ought to get treated.
Same for the mother in the second scenario. Why do such women not realize that they are emotionally and psychologically crippling their children.
About the original reply, yes people do say this kind of stuff "ke maan ne ghar nahin basaya tou beti kya nibhaye gi" etc. And perhaps people from a broken family find it much harder to make a relationship work, compared to other people. Either it could be because they don't have an immediate example in front of them. Or, their family may be more permissive of divorce because there's already a precedent. We do inherit some traits of our parents, very few make the effort to move out of their parent's shadow.
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P.S, the mother from the first scenario instructed her sons not to do anything other than the just necessary to have children. "No hugging , kissing and jaldi se ker k farigh ho bus!" her words....
^OMG!!!
I do know of a case where the MIL didn't want the couple to shut their bedroom door when going to bed.
LOL, OMG
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Ps I edited out the typical guys comment...:-) Yes, she said "main dekh nahi saakti that you go into your room with her"...all the bahus have decided that it was probably because she had a bad relationship with her husband, and is taking it out on her bahus....and boy is she ever! When the eldest son got married, she would weep outside their bedroom door all the time, and as a result, the guy got frustrated and angry and took it out on his wife by pushing her away.They eventually had 2 children, and he hasn't touched her for four years now. I don't know what a girl should do in this scenario. Can guys not see what their mothers are doing? By taking away their wives' rights, how will they face Allah? The boys have told their wives that their mother gets upset if she realizes they are close to them (the wives), so they all had children pretty quickly and refused to have anymore because then their mother can obviously see that they have touched their wives.
HEY BHAGWAN !!! J.H.C !! YA ALLAH !!!
THIS NEEDED ALL THREE GODS !!!!
W.T.F ????????
BY FAR THE CRAZIEST THING I READ ON THIS FORUM !!!!!!!!!!
Lol.... if I had such a MIL... boy oh boy.....I would have a closet full of swankiest/sluttiest lingerie's and I'd mix Viagra in the hubby's dhoodh every night !!!!!!!
And I would be LOUD !!!!!!!
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I've seen a case like that also. The mum had a terrible relationship with the dad and they lived together but separate lives. She was very close to all her kids. She wanted the sons to get married. But then when she brought her first bahu home she could not stand the son being close to his wife and did what she could (unknowingly and unconsiously for the most part) to make the son hate his wife. She picked the girl herself but she got really jealous of the bahu and was even mad when she got pregnant. She would not let the son and bahu spend time alone - she had them sleep late and wake up early and they couldn't be in their bedroom together during the day. Bad situation. She passed away after a few years but the couple still got a divorce. The son could never see what the mom was doing - he was an older man but emotionally immature and dependent on his mom.
And also it happens all the time in Pakistan where moms & sisters don't want the son to have a love marriage. They say they want to pick the girl themselves only. I think it's all about control, if they pick the girl they think they can better control the son / brother. Sad but true.
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Someone mentioned before that her other half said his mum never had any control over what she did growing up and so she ‘deserved’ being able to control others now 
I have a feeling that’s where a lot of the craziness stems from.. I do also wonder if these women are trying to get that real unconditional love they should be getting from their husbands from their sons instead..
When I was younger I used to hear a lot of mothers saying ‘I don’t want him to marry anyone too beautiful’ as if they were scared their sons would be giving their wives more attention than them..