Have you ever looked up why someone got divorced, when they send a rishta and if they’re divorced? I googled this one guy’s name + divorce. And I found court documents. 
Firstly, I didn’t know that this stuff could be found on google. And secondly, has anyone tried doing that much an in depth search on a candidate?
Horrying the stuff you can find.
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This is borderline nuts 
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LOL, why not?
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Divorces and Marriages are public record. Anyone can see....
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Well you normally have to apply for the records, and you fill out forms. Should not be something to google.
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Personally, I would not look into someone's divorce proceedings. I believe that if your misgivings about a guy are THAT great that you feel you must look into divorce proceedings, it's probably best to move on. If you have doubts, I think it's best to address them with the person themselves. If you don't think person is capable or willing to be truthful about what happened, then that is an even bigger indicator that it is best to move on.
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I think its best to have criminal or otherwise background check in an arranged marriage. It doesn't cost much. I told my mom that and she smacked me. Better to be safe than sorry
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:k:
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Horrying the stuff you can find.
Yes because it's a divorce. It's not going to be rosy.
And no I wouldn't look into someone's divorce documents because a lot of things are said/done in the process which are not always true plus it's very stalkerish.
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Yes because it's a divorce. It's not going to be rosy.
And no I wouldn't look into someone's divorce documents because a lot of things are said/done in the process which are not always true plus it's very stalkerish.
^In addition to that, if you distrust the gentleman THAT much that you feel you must look into the divorce proceedings because you feel he wouldn't tell you the truth about what happened if you were to ask, then you shouldn't even be considering him. If there is that much mistrust now, I don't see it getting better in the future.
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Agree :k:
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It is public information for a reason. Good thing you read it.
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For something that's such a huge deal, I see no harm in looking up divorce records if they're available. But as others have said, take them with a grain of salt - trust your instincts and gut feel about the guy too.
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I would **only **look them up if I had a bad feeling about someone.
The issue with divorce proceedings are that divorces are rarely clean and amicable. The nicest people get dirty and have no issue throwing mud on each other in court. People become animals. You have to keep that mind when you look up anyone's past and that's why I stay away from it.
If you look up mine you'd be surprised...but I had no choice since the other option was my ex becoming illegal, deportation and that also meant he'd not be able to support his family the same way.
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^In addition to that, if you distrust the gentleman THAT much that you feel you must look into the divorce proceedings because you feel he wouldn't tell you the truth about what happened if you were to ask, then you shouldn't even be considering him. If there is that much mistrust now, I don't see it getting better in the future.
This. My husband is also divorced - I've never looked up his records.
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Marriage is about having the right chemistry and trusting one and another. If someone has been open and told you everything about his or her past and you have accepted it then you should start on a new slate. The past is the past, it is history and there is no point in digging it open again.