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It will take sometime, stay strong! 
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may GOD bless you........... n always remember ALLAH k her kam mei bhetri hoti hai............... this must be good for you...........my prayers r wth u...........
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God is not trying to punish you. You did no wrong, he was being abusive and Islam grants women the right to divorce, especially in these circumstances. Time and a positive attitude heals all wounds sweetie. You will be ok.
The best revenge is massive success…
You be the best you can be and the rest will follow…Allah swt WILL deal with him. You just wait and see…leave it to him.
YOu are in my duas…
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Wow, Finny. I read your other posts and you really have a lot of patience and strength. You did the right thing by calling it off. You’ll be in out prayers. 
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plz take separtion instead of khula if u have children dont destroy there lives this is my humble request khula means court will hold u responsible women think it is very easy way to comes out
when they start thinking that we are now become something or they find their lost love take your time go to any maullama and follow the instruction
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No amount of words can console you at this moment. You will be miserable for quite some time. One could show you the bigger picture but thats going to be a blurred image to you. You will die everyday for the next few weeks / months until time decides to heal your wounds. Till then just hang in there and try to be strong.
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this must have not been an easy step for you to take, but you did it. And for that you should be proud of. It's the hardest thing to do - to break your own marriage...I wouldn't wish it for my worst enemy, and you overcame the biggest hurdle. Everything else will get easier.
Don't have any regrets about the marriage and what you went through. It was given to you for a reason - you are stronger because of it. The guilt that you having, it comes, but you should know that none of this was your fault. Yes, you took the first step, but no, you didn't cause all of this.
It may seem like a punishment now, and you probably ask "why me?" and "why did Allah do this to me?" "what did I do to hurt anyone?". Well I believe that all this is not a punishment, but a reward for your sabr during your marriage. He SWT is getting you out of it, and inshallah, you will reap the rewards that will come your way.
from someone that has been there and has come out of it in shining form, I pray that you too will come out of the darkness and find the light, Inshallah.
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Hey there girl :)
Saw your post and just needed to send a message and hope I can help in any small way. My cousin who is my absolute soul sister went through her marriage and divorce with me by her side. It wasn't arranged but a divorce carries the same pain. I saw her become a shell of her former bright and bubbly self to very withdrawn. I know much regret, pain and confused feelings come of such a horrible experience.
All I can say is today I'm very happy to say she's come a huge way. The old her is shining through and she is a much stronger person. Was married just under 2 years, in a relationship for just over 3. He was abusive and a twat if I'm honest. But she went through the same grief and suffering that comes at the end of any relationship and I promise you she's a stronger and happier woman now. The divorce was about a year ago so it can happen. The positives take a while to show through, the future can seem bleak but I promise you things always get better.
Happiness can only come when we allow ourselves to be happy. It's totally natural to be upset over what you're experiencing but don't see it as an end, rather a cruel lesson from life but an experience nonetheless that will help you build your life and make you a stronger person. You will mourn as is natural but that doesn't signal the end, each day we have on this earth is an opportunity for a smile, a laugh and to make a difference. Be sure to allow yourself to be happy.
Wish you all the best.
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Its hard signing divorce papers, especially when you're scared and feel upset about it. But you were in a dysfunctional relationship and its better then continuing it anyway. Don't feel bad; you are doing this for your own good! -hugs-
The man you divorced with seemed to be glad to divorce you which is a very stupid move on his behalf, because he's letting go of YOU, and never loved you. He is missing out big time, but then again he doesn't deserve any of your time. Don't let him get to you, you had a good reason to divorce with him and its better being alone then not being loved by a superficial husband.
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I'm praying for you!!
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I read the original thread and I am sorry that things have got to the point that they have
I pray that ALLAH gives you Sabr
What has happened has happened, in one sense you need to think, review what has happened, why it may have happened and how you don't wish it to happen again
I seriously would not want to be in the situation you were in but the one thing I noticed was the stubborness that you both showed.. I appreciate that he was in the wrong but it feels that many of the situations you were in may have led you to think his and his parents intentions were wrong causing you to react badly to them..
I guess what I am trying to say is that Sabr is one of the hardest things to achieve but has the biggest rewards in this lifetime and the next
Stubborness should be used to get people to stay together not to tear them apart
InshALLAH things will work out for the best but we all need to understand that it is better to forgive and take the hand of a loved when it is offered to you rather than push it away..
Hey my sis is going through the exact same situation as u, pm me and u guys can exchange details, maybe you can provide support for each other as she totally knows what ur going through...
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this seems so scary though, a woman gets into marriage seeing all the positives and the thought of divorce is something we never think about or try our hardest so it doesn't come to that. it would suck the most if the girl's parents aren't supportive, they dont' live with the couple so they don't see what nightmarish things happened or are happening.
are all the bad things done and said by the spouse forgivable? if a person had short terms memory all the nasty stuff that's happened, said is forgivable, life would be peachy keen
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:k:
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*May Allah bless you with sabr ... You should hold yourself together as no one can do that except for your own self .. *
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***Nothing anyone says here is gonna make any kind of difference or lessen the dread of having to face him tomorrow !
Just believe that you did the right thing and God will give you the strength and courage to face him and anything else that comes your way.