Re: dividing pay among your man, the house and your own self
If wife is also working in addition to husband, nothing should change. Both salaries should go directly into joint checking account. All the bills should be paid and after everyday expense all the savings should go to joint savings account. Simple is that.
I have seen the tendency of saying "this is my money, i'll do whatever i wana do - everyday expense is men's responsibility" in many wives which i think is wrong. If husband is bound to support whole family, wife should take EQUAL part if she is earning unless hubby himself ask her to not contribute.