its been 4 months since we’ve been m arried and 1 year since our nikkah. Since we had our nikkah I found out that my husband is very angry, he gets angry over little little baatein. he is balochi and i am punjabi but we both live in dubai. his way of living is like arab but thinking is balochi, in that a woman is a man’s shoe etc.
After teh nikkah i thought that he will be better after the wedding…in taht time he used to take me out and my mother thought ti wasn’t right but he was myk husband so she didn’t say anything…i used to fight with my mom over him. it was an arranged marriage but then we fell in love. But slowly his anger and bad behavior started to show at me…at the time i used to stay quiet and listen and then he would ask me for forgiveness. we got married and went on our honeymoon and there he yelleed at me for different things and sometimes insulted me because I guess he doesn’t know language of love!
When we came back he was normal with me, he used to take me out and let me stay at my moms house one night a week..because every weekend he would be out until the morning and thats why he left me at my moms house. But then at his house there was a fight and he took my side. I realized that he will respect me in front of his family but then insult and abuse me in private.
Then one night I went to my parents house and he said that tomorrow 'you should be bak home or else i will say those 3 words and u will forever stay in your home." i didn’t like this, cz when we fight he says to take my clothes and leave his home.
I told my family members and they talked to his father and his parents explained to him…but he is stuck on the point that why did I tell my gharwalay
For this, he is punishing me by not taking me out anywhere and he doesnt even let me meet my mom. We always fight over this point to leave me at my moms house and he says no, when he feels like it then he will take me..its only 15 minutes away.
before i used to listen quietly but now i argue back too ke tell me the reason…he says such dirty things that you do this at your house
I think im pregnant but i dont want to be because his attitude will be worse
what do i do? i am stuck in a bad situation…my mom is goign to pakistan for her operation and i have to stay home to care for her home but he will never let me go…
my mom says that if i dont come then i will forever be gone from her
should i live my life with this kind of guy that maybe one day he will love me…and his heart will soften? or should i leave him?
mom says a person never changes their habits