Re: Disrespecting Women
PCG....I never said that we shouldn't feel sorry for the woman. Obviously she is the primary victim. That goes without saying. Let's remove her from the relationship (i.e. give her a temporary separation or divorce, hefty settlement and alimony) and give her a therapist to go and see. Done? Good. Now that she is being taken care of.....let's turn to the real problem:
My post is aimed at reaching further into the problem and understanding the root cause. If we can talk about "why" a certain problem occurs then, and only then, we may arrive at a resolution.
If I was asked to consider a situation where a man had cheated on his wife, I could easily conclude that the man is an idiot and move on, (And if I came across enough of these examples I could, at some point, conclude that men, in general, are idiots) but what would that accomplish?
What if I took that same situation and tried to arrive at some sort of positive conclusion? What if I focused everyone's attention on the fact that the guy is not an idiot, but somebody that has just lost his sense of self-worth? What if I suggested that this man is doing himself an injustice? What if I made him want to help himself rather than berating him and calling him a loser? Under which of these two circumstances do you think I would have a hope of bettering the individual?
Fayz, your comments are valid. And I do think that minor incidents should be overlooked/forgiven, etc. But only mature individuals can do that. We live amongst very few of these.