any warning against and signature references in deen,
about the anger that is displaced and make people make failing choices and not be open to change because of the ego attached to the anger?
do you get affected by it and when you do, what do you do to counter it, reasonably?
dushwari
Re: displaced anger
hmmm... don't recall something like that happening, though do get into arguments with uncles over religions! they think i am blasphemous i think they are narrow-minded! it makes for a good debate, and is always good exercise for the lungs!!!! :)
but what would on do if u want to change minds....well they say if u want to change minds and hearts u do it not by arguing but by showing by example. PPl will see thigns your way if you show them thru example on how to do that. they say u catch more flies with honey then vingar!
i think there is only two things u cant change anothers mind about...and that is love and faith! the rest is fair game! but u cant make someone love u, or not love you and u cant force someone to believe/ have faith in something the dont believe.
Re: displaced anger
well i had a atheist friend, and we use to have lots of arguments (and quite hot one i should say ) on the existance of any controlling power itself, once during the argument, all i said is,
lets suppose for a minute i agree with you that there is no body controlling this vast universe and it is going as per law of sciences. lets believe, there is no day of judgment, once dead we r gone back to dust... so if i believe in you, i have nothing to loose, but what if iam right? and there is life after death ( which we will only know once we r dead), what if there is day of judgement? what if we will be held liable for our bad-deeds? what if?... [size=3]and result of these kind of what ifs, he is now studying religion, infact a comparitve study on religion... i dont think so he will be out of Islam for too long now...
the whole point is, the moment you asy to other person that he is wrong, EGO element come in action, don't ever do that, if you want others to listen and understand what u say, u have to do the same first.
When i used anger it never worked but when i used the above one, it changed his mind.[/size]
Re: displaced anger
thanks, Farwah.
you are absolutely correct in saying that in love and in faith there is no force.
it becomes beside the point that someone shows one thing and then does another in both love and faith.
nothing in life is retro
it's always after the fact & by then, time is long lost.
*Hanibal, *
thanks, for saying this that standing for what one believes in, regardless of the odds, tests the resistance and it takes personal courage to par with it.
Re: displaced anger
Allah says in the Quran "do dawah in the path of Allah with hikmah (wisdom)"
something i regret not doing in the yesterdys threads may Allah forgive me for my mistakes
islam is wisdom love tolerance and this is what our beloved prophet peace be upon him used when he preached islam
for instance
there was an old lady who hated the prophet and she went to the extent that she packed her bags to leave madina.
when she was walking and carrying her bags a man saw her and came to her to give his asistance, in which she approved.
they where both walking and she kept on saying to the man whatever you do in life never follow the religion of muhammad, hes taking our children and lives of others and leading them astray.
when they both reached there destination she stopped and said our blessed man i have nothing to give you for your asistance but i have one question for you , whats your name?.....in which the man replied...muhammad (peace be upon him)
when she heard the name she began to cry and read the Qalima and became a muslim
moral of story is that no matter who the person wether he is atheist, christian, jewish.....we should preach to them like the prophet did with love, peace, tolerence..and with full respect
may Allah guide us all on the straight path and may Allah for give me and you for our sins...
Re: displaced anger
^ Massive,
this is very nice of you to remind the peace message that our religion bestows upon on us.
yes, as Muslims and Musalimahs, our message to everyone must bear that same radiance of restraint and hikmet - wisdom and patience.
at least, one would have the peace in one's heart for having left nothing incomplete in the way of honesty and commitment to deen.
prayer indeed is powerful, when prayd with full faith and hope after placing one's trust in Allah.
thanks,
dushwari
Re: displaced anger
prayer indeed is powerful, when prayd with full faith and hope after placing one's trust in Allah.
thanks,
dushwari
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tru and very tru:) .....your welcome
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