Thy Lord hath decreed that you worship none but Him and that you be kind to parents. If one or both of them attain old age with thee, do not say a word of annoyance (Literally, “Do not say Uff! (an expression of annoyance) to them.” (Trans.)) to them nor repulse them, but speak to them in gracious words and in mercy lower to them the wing of humility and say, My Lord, bestow Thy mercy on them, as they cherished me when I was little.
*(17:23-24) *
Prophet Muhammad:saw: said:
‘Among the** major sins** is a man’s cursing his parents.’
The people who were present wondered how a sane and believing individual could curse his own parents, and enquired, *‘How is it possible for a man to curse his own parents?’ *
The Prophet :saw: replied, ‘He insults another man’s father, and then the other insults his father, and he insults the other’s mother, and the other returns the insult to his mother.’
Just to add–i have heared that every sin will be rewarded in here after …but the sin of disobediance of parents will be rewarded/punished in this very world…
May ALLAH ta’ala give us the sumajh of obeying our parents and using our youth for the aram of our parents rather then earning worldly items for them …
The Prophet. said, "The biggest of the great sins are: To join others in worship with Allah, to be undutiful to one's parents, and to give a false witness." He repeated it thrice, or said, "....a false statement," and kept on repeating that warning till we wished he would stop saying it.
(Sahih Al Bukhari).
A bedouin came to the Prophet and said, "O Allah's Apostle! What are the biggest sins?" The Prophet said, "To join others in worship with Allah." The bedouin said, "What is next?" The Prophet said, "To be undutiful to one's parents." The bedouin said "What is next?" The Prophet said "To take an oath 'Al-Ghamus." The bedouin said, "What is an oath 'Al-Ghamus'?" The Prophet said, "The false oath through which one deprives a Muslim of his property (unjustly)."
(Sahih Al Bukhari).
It is reported in Al Kafi (Volume 2, page 74, Hadith No. 3) that Imam
Muhammad Baqir (AS) addressing Jabir said:
"O Jabir, do you think that it is enough for anyone just to claim by his
tongue that he loves Ahlul Bayt? Does he, by such a claim, become our
Shiah? Jabir, I swear by the Almighty that until a person fears Allah and
obeys Him, he cannot claim to be our Shiah. He must have humility, be
just, fulfill his promises, engage as much as possible in the remembrance
of Allah, fulfill his obligations of salah and fasting, show affection and
sympathy and obedience to his parents, assist and be kind to his
neighbours, the poor, those in debt as well as show sympathy and affection
to the orphans. He must always be truthful. He should read and study
Qur'an. There must never be any malice in his heart. Without these
qualities, he can not qualify to claim that he loves us or is our Shiah.
O Jabir, it is not enough for any person only to say by word of mouth that
he loves Hadhrat Ali and the Ahlul Bayt. He must follow the 'seerah' (way
of life) of the Holy Prophet and the Ahlul Bayt and act according to the
sunnah established by them. If he does not, then his claim of love for
Ahlul Bayt can never benefit him.
I had asked a question, and I have no idea why my post was removed. However, let me try to ask the same question one more time.
A Hindu guy (let’s say Matsui) wants to converts to Islam, but his parents don’t want him to convert to Islam, and he doesn’t want to disobey his parents. Is he following the Islamic guidelines for not disobeying his parents?
^that would have been correct except for the clause which says that in these circumstances parents should not be obeyed. its a ***** of a clause, i know.
there was an incident in the history..this guy came to Prophet Mohummad (pbuh&up) and said he wants to convert to Islam but his parents are kafir and must he stay with his kafir parents or shall he move out..Prophet Mohummad (pbuh&up) told him that he must stay with his parents and take care of them even if they are kafir
so madhnee…i believe if it comes between islam or parents…he must choose islam but at the same time he must take care of his parents even if they are kaafir..does that answer ur question..some what atleast?
Parents instructions which contradict Allah's commands are not supposed to be followed, I think. But one must look after their parents even if they are non-believers, as far as I know.
anwaar bhai …