and so yessssss, finally I start this thread after a long wait in my head!!!
now, just to say at the start itself, this thread is no offense to anyone in particular or whatever u think. But my views are kinda logical or stupid as u might wanna call it
now just to give u a list of expectations which i have got through my kids and my frnds got through their kids after and by ‘still’ watching Disney kiddie stuff!!!
Tooth fairy
Santa Claus
there is a granny wizard kinda character in Cinderella cartoons (as usual don’t know her name)
Imagination movers
the ridiculous things that they show in Disney sitcoms
Little mermaid
Little Einsteins
and i cant remember more, when my daughter will come up with any other, will then post here
Now what I am trying to say is, my daughter had her little tooth came out and said “mom we need to keep this under the pillow, so the tooth fairy will come at night and will take it and will leave money instead of the tooth” weird as it sounds but yet again all thanks to Disney
Now again whenever kids Santa in Disney flicks they start saying does Santa really exist??? so my question is why portray or ‘put something in your kids head’ which have SO MUCH HIGH EXPECTATION when it does not exist in the first place!!!
Seriously I cant stop my kids from watching Disney cartoons and every year they produce cartoons related to Santa which of course the kids like coz of the ‘flying reindeer’s’, gifts, big fat santa and etc etc
Now do you think is it appropriate to play with a small childs feelings by giving or showing him/her so much high expectations that literally if one says tooth fairy does not exist or the little mermaid the the kid starts crying
Tooth fairy- I have no problem with. When they are younger you leave money under their pillow in exchange of the tooth, eventually they find out she doesn't exist.
Santa- We tell them from the first time they mention him, he doesn't exist. At first they don't believe you because all their American friends get presents from him every year for Christmas so he must be real right, you continue telling them no he isn't. Instead you buy them presents for Eid.
you cannot explain a 4-7 year old fantasy and that's when a child formalizes such dash dash stuff in their heads and when they reach 10 even some kids are just not accepting the fact that it is 'fantasy'
Last week I had a discussion with a few parents at my daughter's school about 'disney movies' and everyone was saying how the words like 'stupid' or 'idiot' is thrown around like so much....now that I think about it when I put my parent hat on, especially the Santa Claus one; how so not age apropriate these movies are for little kids? Do you guys agree?
Santa Clause and the Tooth Fairy are not concepts introduced by Disney, nor do they have anything to do with Disney, so I don’t understand that correlation at all
As far as Disney goes, yes, to a certain extent, I do have a some issues with the overt, princessy, damsel in distress characters, and the role models that they depict for little girls definitely can lead to body image issues, HOWEVER, I think the bigger responsibility lies on the parents to mold and shape their daughters (and sons). There is nothing wrong with harmless imagination and fantasy, as long as there is a healthy dose of reality served along side it. Like Aaliyah mentioned above, Bollywood is just as bad, if not worse. Every preteen/teenage girl grows up thinking her hero is out there and her wedding will be a song and dance medley straight out of a Karan Johar movie…unrealistic much?!?
Again, it’s a parents responsibility to manage their kids’ expectations and teach them the realities of life, not an entertainment company
i didnt mention teenage at all… the problem lies when the flower starts blooming (addressed to our darling kids 4-10 years)
no matter if tooth fairy or Santa didnt came from Disney first but Disney is defo the one who have provided such useless and stupid characters a large platform that kids literally from age 5-10 argue and fight with their parents that “no dad u r lying… Santa does exist” will cry, shout, pull up a tantrum and God knows will do what else…
I completely disagree…the characters Disney “introduces” are mostly based around fairy tale stories that have already been existence. Disney’s questionable marketing comes into play with the exaggerated stereotypes and images they project to little girls
And I’m sorry, but I’m a born and raised in America, spent all my life around “goray” Christians, and I do not know of a single 10 year old who argues, cries or throws a tantrum with his parents about the reality of Santa Clause. That is a grossly exaggerated stereotype that frankly, desi people need to just get over
Children are not going to stay kids all their life. Let them enjoy the disney movies. All of us watched these movies, we surely didn’t end up being troubled cause santa doesn’t exist.
I dont want you to agree with my statement or comment. Everyone has a right to express their opinion. If you are a part of american culture then i am not a resident from planet Mars either buddy. I have seen and studied cases like i have described as the kids tantrum and stuff during my higher studies… anyways thats not of your concern… as we should respect each and others point of view with regards to any matter
Even if you ban them from watching Disney, they will still learn about these things at school, from other kids, from books. So, you cannot completely shield them. You can only teach them. And this stage that they are in is not permanent; they will soon realize that these characters and concepts are make believe.
which of course the kids like coz of the ‘flying reindeer’s’, gifts, big fat santa and etc etc
