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^ don’t all girls do that already?? 
Re: Disguised insults
Confront them IMMEDIATELY. If they say something like "oh 80% is so easy to get in this subject", ask them "So are you calling me stupid? or are you telling me that what I have accomplished is not really an accomplishment?" They will start back peddling with "noo, I just meant.." and you just go on the offensive "No but what do you MEAN by that, on one hand you're telling me I'm so smart and on the other hand you're telling me 80% is so easy to achieve, so which is it, do you think I'm smart or stupid, I don't really care what you think and if you hadn't said anything, no big deal, but you opened the door with what you just said so please, kindly, enlighten me, what are you trying to say?"
Just get right up their arse, make them very uncomfortable in their own skin for saying what they did, just keep asking "but what did you mean?"
HAHAHAHAHAH
Yah do this by all means only if you dont mind being called arrogant, brash, rude and all those cute fancy words :)
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aahmed, I can totally see you doing that ahaha 
You know what, I’m going to start doing that to people who’re ALWAYS like that… (and please, this is nothing to do with GS ¬¬ ) … Zareen, if they’re constantly insulting you, they’re not worth your politeness. I let it go way too often and that only encourages them even more. They should get a taste of their own medicine once you’ve had enough. :faris: 
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I respond back with an "oh wow, that was subtle" or something of the nature. You have to let them know you noticed it.
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I just ignore them, obviously they have some sort of insecurity problems and have no idea how to talk to people therefore have to use low forms of insult. Or if it really gets to me I just tell them they are a t*at and walk off, or a simple wow that was rather charming, did you learn those manners from your mother? or your grandmother?
well they asked for it... pouts
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Yah do this by all means only if you dont mind being called arrogant, brash, rude and all those cute fancy words :)
ZareenKhan, it is an attitude like YOURS that propagates this kind of badtameezi and back handed compliments in desi society because desis like you are too terrified to confront this rude behavior and instead opt to do nothing about it or be as equally back handed as the original offender. If more people just came out and confronted this badtameezi, maybe it would be eliminated.
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In the past, I used Aahmed's tactic. But realized that one has to play politics/play nice. In social settings, no one wants to see an open all out argument break out. So better to ignore - thus withdrawing the oxygen from the person giving the backhanded compliment.