Discussion vs Confrontation

Lifestyle Relationships
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Guys (preferably married ones): If there is an issue between you 2 or lets say any point of contention, how would you want the Mrs. to convey her point to make it sound discussion-based & not confrontational?

Mostly, men tend not to get in discussions with women since we complicate matters with our thought process which does not level down till we vent it ALL out. Our venting can be scary sometimes.

So what exactly should be the manner of venting, discussing, arguing, sorting out matters that does not seem confrontational to you and it gets smoothed out as well?

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Edited: R.A.W. beta, jaan bachaana farz hai. Tannu kinni warri samjhaya si, chup kar key beth ja tey mauj kar.

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"Our venting can be scary sometimes"

True

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you said ‘preferrably’… so i will take the liberty :hehe:

stick to the main point you want to talk about… the venting part u can try to unload it part by part :hehe:

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Yes, it's in the genetics of women.

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Guys (preferably married ones): If there is an issue between you 2 or lets say any point of contention, how would you want the Mrs. to convey her point to make it sound discussion-based & not confrontational?
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A woman de-stresses by talking, and she doesn’t necessarily want her husband to... fix her problem. She feels better merely by verbalizing her feelings. The best time can be in bed or you can politely ask for a "free moment".

Now if your wish is granted:

1) if you ask a question, allow us to give answer without explaining why we are wrong.

2) When we are answering, don't bicker why our answer doesn't make any sense.

3) Avoid entrapment questions. These generally are questions where you are trying to lead your hubby into saying what you think he SHOULD say. Typical desi women problem, genetics as i said earlier.

4) try sticking to one issue at a time, stop rambling around.

5) do have a time limit, 10 minutes equal to not two days.

6) if you don't like the answer, don't try to let us know by throwing plates in washbasin.

7) if you don't like the answer, go cook a good meal, it will take down your temper.

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if i tell you something and you start expecting that from your husband - i dont think thats such a good idea to begin with

as for the scary part - guys should watch horror movies before getting married

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Life1 is more than adequate :chai:

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whatever pleases the women is fine with us. after a while (~2 years), all sane men are reduced to a single option:

pretend to ignore what she is saying but take mental notes on how best to solve the issue, keeping interests of both parties in view. when the storm has subsided, simply do what you feel like is the best thing to do, and go back to the pretend-ignore-mode.