So…how do you discipline your kids?
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Hmmmm, depends I guess.
Give me an example!
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i dunno, so its not the same in all situations? like some parents use logic and reasoning and some yell and some spank?
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like if a toddler keeps touching the light switch, despite you saying no, and then turning back and looking at you with a naughty grin on their face as they shove their fingers in the socket.
i'd do a timeout! i think kids of any age get that and it gives the parents an opportunity to explain why they're in timeout. or at least thats what Super Nanny says :p
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I dont think that we discipline them a whole lot. Either we are very fortunate parents or we are doing something right , that at least I cannot put my finger on but our kids are very well behaved kids. By well behaved, I dont mean that they act like adults. They are kids and they behave like kids but when there is a need, they listen to us and do as we ask.
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ok how about if thy start to act out in public ?
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I'd go down the time-out route too!.. or create a naughty corner and make my son sit there until he realises what he was doing is wrong/naughty.
I don't agree with yelling or smacking kids, you need to explain to them. we don't do 'this' because its dangerous or you will get hurt.
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yeah, public tantrums shudder i don't know how to handle those.
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No beta... (turning to wife....your turn)
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yeah, public tantrums shudder i don't know how to handle those.
I went shopping with me SIL and nephew (3 years old) and he freaked out at the mall because he wanted something and my SIL said no. He usually a very well behaved kid but he just lost it. My SIL calmly picked him up, they went to the bathroom and she sat him down on the sink and told him to tell her when he was ready to go back outside.
He screamed for two more minutes and then said he was ready, they had a good talk about why what he did was wrong and how you can't always get what you want and he was fine.
I later asked her how she stayed so calm and she said that before she use to try and reason with him in front of everyone or try and pull him along (which just made it worse)... she realised that he is a child and sometimes kids need to cry it out. He doesn't pull a tantrum often so when he does she knows that he needs the time to get out his frustration and allows him to do so.
But thats just something that works for them....I don't know how I would handle it, I don't think I would be able to remain as calm as she did.
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every child is not so well behaved my son is a tantrum monster usually he lies down at any place where he wants any thing and screamm so much that people just see himm that what is he doing neither he listens to me or his daddy he is 2 and half .
he understands every thing but when he dont wana understand its so stress ful for us .
We me and hubby just stand still or hubby has to pick him up from the floor as he just creates a lot of fuss and we end up coming home..:(
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If you are asking about desi kids , only the old fashioned disciplining works with them. They have desi genes so new world's disciplining will not work with them.
What are the old fashioned discipling tools ?
1. Chitter
2. Chapair
3. Murgha bana dena
4. Thoka-e with belt
These are the only ones I could remember. other can complete the list if they want.
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Our story is like TLK's. Either we got REALLY lucky or we're doing something right, but our kid is a pretty easy going kid. She's a happy little thing. She has started some tantrums since she turned 2 but they last all of 2 minutes. Begum is VERY patient, the more cranky the kid gets the more calm the begum gets and talks to her and holds her and softly coaxes out of her what the problem is. She never throws a tantrum for NO reason. There's always a reason. My brother and his wife yell at their kid, threaten to leave her on the side of the road, threaten to get their kids new parents. They always have knee jerk reactions and then they wonder why their kids are so badly behaved. Their older kid is ALWAYS miserable and they don't discipline her properly, they make stupid empty threats that they can't follow up on.
We follow up on our ultimatums. Last week our kid was throwing her toys, we told her that it's not nice to throw her toys and that they may break or get lost and that's being disrespectful, she thought it was funny and kept doing it, finally begum said that if she throws it again, we will take that toy and give it away to someone who appreciates it more, our kid called our bluff and threw it again, begum took it, went to her car, drove away. Kid screamed for a few minutes about her toy, but we stood our ground and said, that's what happens when you throw your toys despite being told not to. She hasn't thrown anything since. :D
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^ What do you do when they are too young to understand that reasoning. Bunny understands a lot, but I don't think she would follow that whole process. She's a year and loves to throw things and hear them crash and then try to get them or demand someone else get them for her.
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I use timeouts.
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Is it possible to discipline a 9-10 month old…??If so,how…??
Somehow mine has gotten into a habit that whenever she sees either one of her parents using the phone or the remote she leaves everything and crawls upto us and demands that it be given to her…I have been guilty of doing it at times and so has been her father…although I try to keep these things out of sight now and dont give them to her if she sees them…
If she isn’t given what she wants she sits there and makes a grumpy face and starts fussing (not actual crying,but just fussing)…
2 days ago she was playing with a toy when she dropped it onto the floor and it made a loud sound which kinda fascinated her and she started doing it deliberately…she threw it,came the loud sound,she smiled and picked it up and went again…
One of my worst fears is that I might not be able to discipline her or do something wrong or encourage a wrong habit which might make her a fussy child or tantrum thrower when she is old enough…
what am I supposed to do if she does so,other than just hiding the cell phones and remotes in the house…
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Sahar, trust me, at a very early age, they understand 'no'. So early on when she did something we didn't like, we said "NO" very assertively and if required, picked her up and removed her from the situation to let her know we mean business. That seemed to work.
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She's understood no for several months now. I think she's just fascinated with the cause and effect relationship of throwing things and hearing a noise. Sometimes she looks at us as if she knows we're going to tell her no; other times she acts and thinks later, cuz she's so interested in whatever she's doing. It's not deliberately naughty.
Will try following the "no" with removal.
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How do you discipline someone else's child who is in your care, like your nephew or nieces
How do you feel about someone else disciplining your child, when you've left them in their care [family members]