Dilemma

So, I usually do not post in this forum but I really need some advice about a situation that I don’t really know what to do about. Actually, I probably just need someone to tell me to mind my own business - in nicer words of course.

Recently a big argument ensued between me and one of my closest friends. We met at work and instantly became friends. We had been friends for 2 years. Things were said back and forth and well we are no longer friends and probably never will be again. Let’s call her M.

M’s boyfriend E, is also my co-worker. Last year a new girl started working there and I could see that she had a huge crush on E. Since M had just cut back on her hours, new girl did not know that M and E were dating. I, being the loyal friend, once in a casual convo brought it up to new girl that E is taken. I could tell she was crushed, but I felt she needed to know.

I also got to know new girl and thought of her as a very good person. New girl never explicitly told me that she had a crush on E, obviously because I was friends with M. I also noticed that E talked to new girl a lot. It sorta bothered me but I brushed it off as his nice nature.

But now that M and I are no longer friends, new girl confessed to me a few weeks ago that she really does like E a lot. But she would never do anything about it because she respects M and is also not a tramp. I agreed with her and figured ok she has a good head on her shoulders. Let her sulk in her misery for a bit and she’ll get over it.

But whenever M came to work, it seemed her and E were fighting. This gave new girl hope. She started openly flirting with E. She stays back at work with some excuse or the other when E has to stay late. And just yesterday she did something which is a very long story, which has obviously put me over the edge. E has never told new girl that he has broken up with M, but he openly flirts with new girl.

The thing is I do not know if M and E are still together or not. And I know that if this was any other person, they wouldn’t care about this situation but well other people’s stupid choices make me mad. Especially, when its people I care about.

M and I are no longer friends but for some reason I can’t stand the thought of E betraying her trust. If M and E are not together anymore, I would not care. Well I kinda would, he is still an idiot but it wouldnt bother me as much. AND I do not want to see new girl get her heart broken either. But she is starting to act like a silly teenager so my sympathies are fading a bit.

How do I find out if M and E are still together? Asking M or E is out of the question. Or should I ask E? Or like a normal human being stop caring about a situation that has nothing to do with me? and is about an x-friend who probably wouldnt even give it two sec thought if we switched places.

Ok sorry for the long post. Thankyou!

if i were u i wouldnt give a damn..

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would not get involved

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Stay away.

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Let bring up the matrix comprising of elements in straigh format i.e

**** L M N O P ]

N = New girl
P = You , Passionate

O is no body, just a random colleague.

Please Keep in mind the neo matrix is not self destructive. You need a trigger.

Also keep in mind L has an important place in this scheme. L is a construction worker who is repairing your office window glass from outside. But he has a bird’s eyeview.
So

Play Safe :k:

I dont know. I hate it when people confide in me with the pretense of wanting advice and I give them very sound advice and they turn around and do the complete opposite!

This comment is Oscar worthy!

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Just stay away from all of this. Why get involved, especially when M, E, and new girl are your co-workers? You could end up hurting your relationship with ALL of them and then work in a crappy environment.

I have yet to see a smarter post than this.

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Stay away...its not your business and if you get involved...without a doubt...somehow it will come back to you.

And not in a good way.

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oh maaaan, confusing letters of the alphabet.

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^:cb:

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Let it go, it's really not worth your time. I'm sure if you are noticing that E and New girl are flirting, others are too. The news will come back to M, but you definitely shouldnt be the messenger.

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stay away. trust me.. i've been in a similar dilemma and decided it was nothing to do me. its fot your own good.

You guys are right. And I didnt do anything about it and ended up finding out that M and E are no longer together. So dilemma over.

head explodes