But what is all this about getting sick because you have to go to Multan?
I have to make that Lahore-Multan journey more times than I care too, it's really not a big deal. Especially if you're in an air conditioned bus. Hell, we drove from Multan to Isb for a wedding and came back the same day (overnight).
You know what else you can do? Get a connecting flight straight to Multan after landing in Lahore, that can usually be added to you ticket no problem. You can attend all the events and get back to Lahore with the Barat on the 26th.
Then you have the rest of the time to do your wedding shopping (it doesn't take nearly as long as you think, Lahore isn't that big) and your family is happy too.
You will really regret it if you don't at least go to the wedding. You might be annoyed enough now not to go but afterwards you will feel how stupid was it miss someone's wedding and one of the most joyous occasions in their life over something like this.
I don't understand the problem here.. Just couple of years ago, I arrived in Pakistan the same day as my cousin's mehndi.. I had to get my lehnga shirt fixed for that night so I had that in my handbag, arrived at the airport around 4:00PM and then travelled directly to her city (about 3 hours away) and enjoyed mehndi, barat, valima as much as possible.. jet lagged yes but it was awesome!
If you want to enjoy, you will have fun... if you think you may get sick, then dun attend the wedding.. simple as that!
^ the problem is that i m going for 8 days...FOR MY WEDDING SHOPPING...not for this wedding.
Stoppit...the idea of going multan directly did cross my mind...but we will have no place to stay, and a lot of luaggage.
I think you guys are right though, that i will regret and feel silly not attending the wedding.
Oh, I just realised, the mehndi is in Lahore right? Then I don't see the problem.
But even if you can't attend that, you can still go with the Barat for that day and attend the Walima. Or at least just the Walima, that's the event from your side right? As you said, you will regret it if you don't.
Anyways, I reckon even 5 days is ample time in Lahore. You won't believe how much I got done in 2 days, lol. Great ready for some 10 hour shopping days though!
So let me get this straight. Your relations should plan their wedding around your *ing travel plans? How *ing selfish are you?
Would you tolerate some woman telling you when you should plan you wedding? I swear the more I read this thread, the more I think the general stereotype of ABCD women of being *****es is true.
CM...maybe i m not clear on this. BUT they planned the wedding according to MY visit. even thn i dont get to attend the mehndi (thats what i m mad abt). I didn't ask them to do this. I wuld prefer it if it wasn't during my trip...but it is. I know they wont be able to change the barat date (and i didn't ask them to do that either) i asked to change the mehndi date since its only our family attending that...but they said no.
I have already paid for my tickets and will lose $500 if i try to change dates.
Before calling me names maybe you should read the whole tread and my replies first.
Oh, I just realised, the mehndi is in Lahore right? Then I don't see the problem.
But even if you can't attend that, you can still go with the Barat for that day and attend the Walima. Or at least just the Walima, that's the event from your side right? As you said, you will regret it if you don't.
Anyways, I reckon even 5 days is ample time in Lahore. You won't believe how much I got done in 2 days, lol. Great ready for some 10 hour shopping days though!
planning on the 10 hours shopping day :) cant wait :)
if i were you i would only worrying about shopping. at least non of my relatives are considerate enough to change the dates according to my plans (unless i am some foreign returned educated munda, and they have a daughter of marrying age, then they might would consider changing it :p).
if i were you I would have landed there on 23rd, and if i were having a jet-lagged (which i barely when i travel TO PAKISTAN. i only face it when i am leaving Pakistan...dont know why) i would had cancelled every plan and would slept all day long. and then when i would be feeling fresh i would have gone for shopping and would only worry about the day of shadi (which is of course boring).
ps. tbh, pakistani wedding in Pakistan are really boring especially when it involves traveling from one city to the other (or may be cuz i dont have any friends in cousins and i dont enjoy their cheap talks). in Punjab they usually have weddings at day time which further increases your frustration.
i think it was nice enough of them to plan the wedding according to your visit, as you said. the main functions are considered the barat and valima which they made sure you would attend, as you say mehndi is a very small home affair, maybe that date is convenient for them for some reasons? if they wanted you to feel left out or delibertely hurt you i'm sure they would not have bothered to keep your visit in mind for any of the functions and your cousin would not have insisted you attend the wedding. its unreasonable to expect them to arrange the whole wedding around your trip, i'm sure the ones getting married have some prefernces too for various reasons. i think they have already been considerate enough, don't take it so personally.
I wanted to post my reply along those lines but fear of this edited editing did not let me. I watched my language for fear of getting ban or infarctions.
So just coz you cant go to the mehndi Incase you look 'bad'... You wanna not attend any of them? Ok bcoz that makes sense doesnt it.
theres 3 days for a reason. Im sure they will be too busy to even notice if so and so has attended or not.
Plently of my cousins have got married and i havnt attended them all. And if i dont attend any they certainly dont think bad of me.
I watched my language for fear of getting ban or infarctions. 