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do the right thing..i agree, if you were the girl, you'd want to know...and you should tell it.
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Thing is who is he to her...sometimes i think my mate is being a dickhead to his girl but hes my friend...i advise him...i like his girl but hes my friend...
One of my friends cheated on his girl whilst we were on holiday...im friends with his girl but again my loyalty is to my friend...
The only reason i can think why this guy wants to speak to the girl is cos he has a thing for her and feels he could do a better job than his cousin...
Your friends will invariably do things wrong but that doesnt stop them from being your friend...girls come and go...your cousin wont...
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kiya bakwaas hai, slap your cousin really hard, you will be doing him a favour trust me. the girl should be told by YOU
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I hate this kind of guys and this is not love..he is just passing his time..idiot...agghhh
you should tell your friend, it is better for her to come out of it asap.
just think if it was your sister, then you'd tell her right away and help her get out of such relaionship nomatter how close you are to that friend.
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If she's old enough to date, then she's old enough to figure out what's right and wrong...
Let her learn her lessons...
If you are so concerned, you should let her know everything that's going on...It's your duty with her being your friend and protecting her and keeping her safe from the harm and heartache she will receive from your cousin...You will be doing her a favour, trust me...
As for your cousin, to hell with such an insincere person's sentiments...
I Agree 100 percent with lajwaab
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If she's old enough to date, then she's old enough to figure out what's right and wrong...
Let her learn her lessons...
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well i don't agree with this part....when you can help someone out then you should go and help them out instead sit and watch the drama...
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what ever happened? did u tell her? are they still giong out?
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Well if yr cousin is a good person he shud listen 2 u and come out straight with the girl ...if he doesnt agree 2 do it himself i think u shud intervene and let the girl know the truth....its yr duty cuz u know the truth and u cant let somebody u r frndly 2 be used like this...yr cousin is doing wrong so if he even cut ties with u on yr telling the girl abt his lies i think u wl be better off with sum1 like that....
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My paternal cousin is dating a girl but he doesn’t seem serious about her whilst she’s head over heels for him, he’s not exactly cheating on her and he tells me he loves her but he’s very dishonest with her, he’s not even told her his real name or where he lives whereas she’s always inviting him over to her flat (she lives one her own due to studies) and has even given him access to her account..
What’s more this girl is from Faisalabad so my cousins mom will never allow him to marry outside our community (a lot of our family are still narrow-minded and backward)…
I really like the girl and feel sorry for her because my cousin is using a false alias with her but if I tell her I’d feel guilty for my cousin because he’s the only decent person from my paternal family (the rest just depress me)… But if I don’t tell her I’d feel sorry for her, she’s my friend and we often go out together, she’s not a slutty girl, he's the first guy she's going with and they're not physical, she doesn’t wear hijab but she prays and she really thinks he is going to marry her someday…
I don't know whether I should tell her he told her a false name and that he's a mommies boy and his illiterate village mom will never allow him to marry outside our community but if I do then I feel sorry for him....
What should I do? Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
I would tell the truth if I were her friend, honestly as a true friend I would advise you to tell her truth (i.e if you think he is not being honest with her) tell her to know the person first before she takes big step of her life.
No harm in dating first, this way she'll be able to get to know him. she should be smart enough to see if he is being honest or not, sometime when a person is so much in love they are not able to see the other side of the person.
In this case maybe you'll be able to help her out by telling her not to rush into anything before she is definetely so to tie the knot.
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I am surprised at the people who have commented that he should be 'loyal' to his cousin/friend. Excuse me, so what is more important here. The friendship with an apparently callous person, who doesn't seem to have any ethical sense. Or the potential danger to the poor girl, who is obviously too blindly in love to notice what a jerk the guy really is!
Friendship is important, but some things are more important than that. Like trying to help a fellow human being out of a potentially dangerous situation. Not to mention the hurt that would be left in the wake.
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P.S. If you are a real friend, you would a) speak to your cousin and at least try to make him see that what he is doing is not correct, b) If possible, talk to that girl.