Re: dilemma.
Oh she's starting with her masters. I see. If I were in that position, and that masters meant a lot to me, I would chose the masters. The guy can find some other maid to take care of his parents; plenty of women who are willing to do stuff like that.
Depends on what field you work in and what you do, but a masters in some professions/areas of work is basically essential these days. It used to be, in the USA, that having a bachelor's degree was a big thing, but these days, bachelors degrees are as common as high school degrees. After having done bachelors myself, really, I used to think that a bachelors could really get you places, but it really doesn't. In certain areas you need to move forward with the education.
Also depends what the masters is in. If its a professional school level masters, then she really needs to sit down and let her soon-to-be in laws know exactly how much time she's really going to give them, because it wont be alot. Especially if its professional school, she needs to make it clear to them that she wont have the time to cook a full course meal every night for the whole family plus clean plus birth babies along with going to her classes/internships/etc etc. As long as the in-laws know what life will be like, and what tasks she'll be able to do, and how much time she can put in at home, then its cool. Decision is easy to make.
But its common to see people under delusions. People think that after marriage, they can change people. If her hubby feels like he'll change her once he marries her, or if the in-laws think that she's going to put in a lot of time at home, they need a wake-up call. She's the only one that can do it.
Some non-professional masters are also pretty rigorous. Some programs require travel, etc. So it really depends on the program. She should also try talking to people going to the program she wants to get into...who are already married. See how they're coping with their lives. That can help a lot, since she'd be talking to people who can give her better advice on how to manage her time to fit in family and school.
I don't know, maybe I'm naive. But I get the impression that grad school/professional schools, and any post-grad training is pretty rough. But once you get a steady job after that education, things get easier, and your schedule tends to be more flexible to allow you to fit in family time. Who knows, maybe its really not like that, and things only keep getting harder and harder until the day you drop dead.