Re: dilemma.
Analysis:
All three points cited by guy have unselfish motives. He wants his parents to be happy, wants to support his family and pay for her education, wants his children to have an energetic father (he is thinking of the children).
All the points cited by girl have selfish motives. She has started hating the in-laws even before the marriage has happened, she doesnt want to take care of old in-laws, and she is a heartless, conniving cow for being jealous of the guy.
Dump this cow and marry a sweet innocent girl. Thank me later.