Sadzz,
I appreciate you giving me the hope. Inshallah, I did and still have intention to make it work but like I said, I am a human and sometimes I feel "I am not qualified to be that lifelong teacher?".
I try to know her more but she is on the other side of the coast and trust me, its hard to know someone more when they do not communicate that much and are not staying with you.
I totally agree with the rights of Wife and Parents and clearly understand how to distinguish between them. The unfortunate thing is that we have not even come to the point where we need to define them because neither my parents live with me not do they have any intentions to do so. She is freaking out merely by a couple of phone calls I got while I was with her. I am aware of all the rights she has on me and willing to give them to her. My parents are very understanding, they will never put me in a spot where I will have to make a tougher decision between them and my wife. If they knew all this, they would never even bother me. Their happiness is my happiness even if it means them being out of my life. But I will not be able to face myself nor Allah.
marriedsingle,
she can change with the right approach and the right care
its not an overnight thing, but it can happen, Inshallah
Rather than arguing with her (and i know u have said you have been very patient), just speak with her. Get to know her more, u r nikahfied.. so im sure u guys can talk freely.
Yes, ur parents are ur jannah and u cannot leave them... but this girl will (Inshallah) one day become ur wife, which i think she is considering u have had the nikkah, in that case u need to give her some rights too... Ur parents raised u and loved u and have given u a good upbringing, Mashallah, but now that ur married... u need to be able to distinguish between the love for a wife and the love for parents..
which, a lot of times people have a hard time distinguishing between... this goes for both males and females