Re: Dilemma thats killing me
Candy,
My parents live in Pakistan. After nikah she noticed that my parents call me often especially when we were together. She didn't like the fact I was that close to my parents and she felt they shouldn't interfere in our lives especially when we are together. Honestly, my parents were super excited for us and they were not able to join us for the nikah so they were trying be there for us on the phone. It was very normal and predictable behavior and I did not even notice of it being an issue at all.
She has shown serious unwillingness in having a relationship with my parents. I have not asked her exactly what she wants me to do but it surely sounds like she wants them out of my life.
She is very very confused. Imagine, she has not discussed this divorce thing with anyone whatsoever. Her friends, family no one has a clue. What can you expect from a person who does not consult or take advice from ANYONE not even her own family? She wont trust anyone and feels strongly that her decisions are need to be made by her strictly. You are very right, I have a strong feeling that she is mentally unstable as well to some extent. It could be genetic but I have noticed that several people in her family have that issue.
Honestly, most of my friends and people I know in the religious circle have told me to cut it off since I really don't deserve all this. They know me very well and I have been dying to find a flaw in me or an error I made for which I am getting punished but by listening to both sides, they tell me I haven't done anything to get this relationship where it stands today. That has given me a lot of confidence in deciding if it needs to be done with. One of the Imams actually told me to let her go and Inshallah he will find me someone who I was looking for in her(religious, loving, caring etc). That was after I asked him if it will be hard for me to find a spouse since I would be a divorcee.
I really appreciate your help.