Thank you for your great advice. I have come to that conclusion as well and I am thinking about giving her a chance.
Being a human, I have another fear. I fear if she is one of those who won't change which is something no one can guarantee, should I leave it now when no Rukhsati has taken place?
Isn't that going to be better for both of us?
Or should I be willing to take on the responsibility to maybe infuse that change in her inshallah. I know Allah will reward me for that but ....
just confused.
I think maybe her attitude to life does stem from the fact that she lost her mother at an early age, She has no motherly figure in her life. Someone to show her from right from wrong. It also sounds like she herself is confused and does not know what she wants.
I think all you can do is continue to be patient, and allah will show you the right path. talk to her if necessary and explain though im sure you have done; that you can give her the love that will make her happy and that marriage is life long. There is no point in being angry at your family for no reason.
though she is 24, like you say maybe she is yet to learn the lessons life has in store for us, however give her time and once she knows in her heart you are good for her, she will come to you inshallah after all yo her husband. Unfortunately if she continues to say silly things, maybe just maybe give her what she wants only if there is no other way as you ahve tried all you can, sometimes we have to let go of people no matter how bad the situation may become.