Here it is:)..Basically I have all sorts of friends which may be polar opposites to each other if put in a single group.What usually happens is when they meet each other maybe at my house or somewhere else…they dont get along and I end up taking the negative comments, opinions etc…I mean they just put me in the middle…trying to make me listen to their opinion of who ever they dont like.This has happened for so long and now Im actually sick of it..I have tried presenting the other person’s view point but that in turn makes some sensitive as to Im choosing sides.Any suggestions in trying to neutralize the situation.Again this has been going on since I was a teeny tiny tot in school:cb:…I cant be people’s refree all the time:crying:..and I dont want to choose one over the other.I believe each human has a different sort of understanding/relationship with another which cannot be compared with one another:)
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Do what I do - don't let your different social groups meet :p
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Me and my best friend have comletely different views of politics & religion, we argue for hours but in the end we enjoy the arguments, without any hard feelings.
May b ur frendz need to grow up a bit.
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Do what I do - don't let your different social groups meet :p
yup! this would work well and i do it all the time :)
some people just dont mix. i used to try and one party ended disastrously with someone throwing up for ages in the bathroom. his wife was SO mad at us! it took forever to mend that!
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for a teachable moment, it is always better to meet in person and if you do want to resolve the issue between the polar groups, have a good face to face meeting all and for once.
Dushwari
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Either have like 2 living rooms or don't let them meet :p
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I usually do that but there are times when its inevitble that they meet ..
That is true..I dont want to be the scapegoat that they use to vent their frustrations and play the blame game
..waise how unfair for them to blame you guys.We have had some people say “Oh we will meet then only because you say so!”..our answer has been…no way..U make up your own mind..dont if you yourself dont want to:).
I still donot divulge how close I may be with another but at the end its just I cannot take responsibility for someone else’s behavior.Sometimes people do weird stuff…it should only be their own responsibility:)
That may be a bit too extreme…hafta keep it desi palatable:)
I do actually……but usually I call em up in different groups…
Funny thing that happened one eid..I called at the 11th hour to some of my really good friends to come in the morning after namaz…and ofcourse didnt call some..but at dinner at someone’s house later that day, this lady went up to my husband who was sitting with all the dudes asking him very directly WHY your wife didt call us…omg he was so embarrassed…but I was like wth
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I totally know what u r talking abt!!!One of my friends actually criticized every single of my friends in such a way that for a while it effected my opnion abt them and I even cut ties with some of them cuz of this person’s negative opinions about them…how silly I was!!
Now I dont mix ppl I know..
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Me and my best friend have comletely different views of politics & religion, we argue for hours but in the end we enjoy the arguments, without any hard feelings.
May b ur frendz need to grow up a bit.
Yes! Same here.
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That must be hard…it is not wise to trust someone so blindly:)..and its good that you learnt the lesson.
For the mixing part there r times I cant help it..ultimately they meet up and then the discussion starts about how much of a friendship I have with another..more like competitive in nature:bummer: